38-pounds I gained during pregnancy
47-pounds I lost post-pregnancy
35-hours I work per week (on paper anyway)
1-the hour Kian sleeps for nap, per day, at daycare
3-the minimum hours Kian sleeps at home for naps
3.95-price of gas at the middle eastern run gas station
3.79- price of gas at BJ's using American gas
11-months old Kian is
1-shows I watch regularly (House, yes that's the only one I care about)
58-number of clients I have (yeah it's way too much!)
But, here's the number that really irks me: 12
12 months, which = 1 year. As in Kian is almost 12 months. But, it aggravates me because it is seen as this magical number. As soon as a baby hits 12 months (his first birthday) all these magical things are supposed to happen. Things like: discontinuing breastfeeding or formula feeding for whole milk, no more baby food, only table food (not an issue here as we've introduced it slowly from early on) and bottles are gone, cups are the new bottle, although there is more variation on when pacifiers can go, expectations to use spoons, cups, talk, etc.
What bothers me most is that it's just supposed to happen that magical day the baby turns one year old. So tell me why Tuesday is okay for all these things, but not Monday when the baby was 11 months and 29 days? This is much like all 16 year olds magically are given licenses. They are all not ready for this, nor should every one of them have it. And thank God there are more measures in place to weed those who should from those who shouldn't.
But back to my rant. I spend minimal amount of time in the pediatrician's office. As long as my child gains weight/grows, and can bang 2 blocks together they're happy. Which I am fine with because my extensive Early Intervention and child development experience gives me an upper hand over some/most parents they see in the office. But... as we're nearing this "magical" number I really am becoming more conflicted and confused. I wasn't confused about too much before, I researched, I decided and then I acted. I'm not giving him whole milk, disgusting! I know there's people who would walk around with a cow stuck to their mouth all day if they could because they love milk so much. I'll go into the milk thing in a later blog.
I guess I wonder if babies get confused or upset because parents literally just change things on that magical number day. Like, they have bottles one day every few hours with formula, then it's onto cow's milk in a cup with meals, not every 3 hours. It's a change. Maybe because I am not so good with change that I want to make sure I don't overwhelm Kian with lots of change. I am over the whole pumping at work thing so that I will be done with around his birthday. That doesn't mean I won't let him continue at home to make transitioning easier. From what i read as long as children have protein and calcium (from any source) that's what they need, then there really isn't a need for cow's milk. I buy Kevin organic milk because he refuses to give up milk. I don't do much cold cereal so I don't have a need for milk. I do love cheese however...
This is really the first time I've felt unsure of my parenting. And I think it's more so because I am working and he's in daycare where I can't always see what's happening. I've let him lead in many areas, feeding especially. He let us know he was done with pureed foods early on and so I let him take it to table foods. My final thought is to again let him take the lead and make the 'magical' one year old transitions as he will, but without gallons of cow milk. He does seem to like rice 'milk', but really, he's not eating cold cereal so he doesn't really have a need for 'milk'. And since I'm being totally honest-the kid's only had juice about 3 or 4 times in his life. Even though it's all fruit juice, it's full of (natural) sugar and a filler most of the times. The boy loves water, thank goodness, which essentially is all that is needed along with food. (do you ever wonder who came up with the idea to milk a cow and drink it and make it into cheese? were they watching a baby calf feed and said "me too?" ...things that make you go 'hmmm')
So, I guess in wrapping up this long post...I have come to no conclusions. Other than that I know Kian uses a sippy cup just fine and since he only gets a bottle at daycare I have no qualms about discontinuing that. I guess as long as he eats a well-balanced, well-rounded diet and gets his nutrients and maybe some vitamin supplements I won't worry about discontinuing breastfeeding (when he's ready) in exchange for cow milk. Right?