Yearbook Yourself

This was a fun stress-reliever last night. Kevin and I were laughing so much. Try it! www.yearbookyourself.com

1956
hmmm...




1962
fancy hair!


1966I kind of like that volumized bob!



1974

1982(what's scary is that this looks like it's the original! How did they do that to hair??)



1992
(hello hair spray!)



1994
Kevin
1958
(i can't stop laughing at this one!)


1964



1970
(I think Kevin's dad has this same picture!)



1976
(oh so sexy!)



1982
(Afro! now we're talking!)



1990
(sweet mullet!)



1996
(Kevin really DID look like this in 1996!)




And I couldn't leave Jon out of the fun! Here's 1954 Jon:


1974(I laughed so hard at this one!)


1988
1994
(I think I saw this one at his mom's house in a frame!)

I love me a weekend

I love me a long weekend.

This last week, even month, has been difficult for me. It's been very stressful. There is a lot going on at work. Let's just say with transitioning kids out of our program into the preschool programs, with numerous staff changes, auditing and evaluations from accreditation's, and who knows what else, it's been ridiculously busy, hard and stressful. Then, I add in the daycare drama, trying to find family time, extended family time, friend time, me time. Don't forget Kourt's surgery yesterday. All I'll say is that my veggie garden? Yeah, it's a weed garden. Flowers? good thing they sustain themselves around here.

It's just one thing after another. But, the end is in sight. With the end of the month comes the end of the crazy rush at work, allowing me to have a breather for a few weeks. I worked my butt off at my job this month, especially this week. I turned in what needed to be, I made sure everything was up to date, so that when I come in on Monday Tuesday I can start fresh for the new month. That's a good feeling.

Things don't really slow down at home, but that's okay. It's what I signed on for. Kevin and I have been feeling the affects of not having much alone time thought. Okay, honestly, I don't think we've been out alone (except to his employee Christmas Party) since before Kian was born. *gasp!* So, we are making plans to do somethings, just us. Especially since our 5th anniversary is coming up soon! (Five year already! I can't believe it!)

I've just been feeling very cranky, stressed and annoyed this last week. I was in the blackhole, feeling that nothing is getting done and not knowing where to start. I wasn't too nice to everyone. I know it's due to the pressure at work and the feeling that I can't keep up. But, I made it. Things did get done. Daycare was figured out. It's Saturday. It's the weekend. It's a long weekend! I can relax. I can regroup and focus and start this month fresh. I love it. I can pick up the house, make my grocery list. I can make some relaxing plans for this weekend. I can start to think of the fun events coming up (baby showers, birthdays, anniversaries). I can sit outside and enjoy the warm weather one more time before Fall hits. (I love Fall!)

I love me a weekend!

Daycare woes

This last week has been full of daycare drama, hurried decisions and changes... here's why:

Kian's been at this daycare for just under 5 months and he's only had good, consistent teachers for the 3 weeks he's been in his new room, and maybe 3 weeks with the other room. I don't like that. He doesn't like that. Kian finally had 2 consistent teachers in the Infant I room. After 3 months of random staff, fill-ins, it was relief for all of us. I had talked to the director about some of the staff changes and how this affected Kian and his schedule, and the random people not knowing his routine, etc. I could tell things were going well and he was glad of the routine when he began sleeping for a 2.5-3 hour nap with Miss Rayeanne and Miss Jaquetta. They are sweet, meshed well and he did great in their room.

Then, because Kian was over a year, they moved him into the Infant II room (12-18 months). I was okay with this because he was the oldest in the other room full of newborns. But, I did not like that there were 2 year olds in this room still. We knew there would be some adjusting to the new routine, the busy-ness and noise of the older room. Miss Kim and Miss Jane were consistent in that room, which was great, and helped him adjust quickly. He seemed to connect with Miss Kim quickly and had no problems going with Miss Jane in the morning. Kian did not, and still does not, sleep more than 60-75 minutes there. Which is NOT enough for him and makes for miserable evenings. I guess Miss Kim has to rock him to sleep to, which we do not do at home, but he's so nosy at daycare he won't just lay down and sleep.

So, of course 2 weeks ago Miss Jane tells us she's leaving for a job closer to home and her child. I get that, it makes sense, but stinks for us. Now for the last 2 weeks there has been a different 'sub' in Kian's room in the morning until Miss Kim arrives. He is not happy about this, and has been crying when I leave him. It is extremely hard to leave him when he gets upset. And the subs don't come over and try to comfort him, I have to engage him in something or get him some juice and cereal so I can leave. Isn't that their job? *insert big sigh here*

Another issue I've had, due to all the staff changes, is that Kian gets food I don't want him to, or doesn't get the food I want him to. I bring him organic milk, Yobaby yogurt (with Iron), juice, and I also leave some snacks there so they can substitute for their snacks if need be. When he was still on bottles in the other room, we ran into instances of him not getting bottles, or getting formula when I had pumped, etc. He was also getting foods I didn't want him to have (syrup, cookies, etc.)
Now, I know you're thinking I'm going overboard with the food part. But, Kian had low iron at his 12 month check up and needed iron fortified foods or drops. Second, the doctor told me he needed to eat more and gain weight because he was dropping in the weight percentile (stupid percentiles!). So, this was my way of ensuring he had more to eat, better foods with healthy calories, and iron fortified foods. Besides meals at daycare are less than healthy: syrup-laden french toast sticks, cookies, chicken nuggets, pizza, white toast for breakfast every day...etc.

Another issue that was coming up, that I could sense, and the teachers would tell me, is the director/staff relationships. Directors were nice and sweet to the parents' faces, but sometimes it felt fake. But I saw times when they were not as nice to their staff as they could have/should have been. Staff confirmed this to me (maybe they shouldn't have, but I'm glad) that directors did treat them crappy at times and had favorite children and parents. Which was another thing that was irritating. My child doesn't need to be any one's favorite (even though Miss Kim said he was hers) he just needs some attention and care and routine. But, certain staff and directors had very favorite children that they would carry around the center for long periods of time; or accommodate that child's parents no matter what. We were not one of them.

So, even though I hate change, I realized when each day my child was miserable, staff was becoming miserable, subs were more frequent than regular teachers; and I felt absolutely horrible leaving my child, almost in tears when I pulled out of the parking lot, that we needed to change something. And when Miss Kim told us she probably wasn't going to stay much longer, that was the last straw. She couldn't believe I worked at this daycare and still chose to bring Kian there. She said he'd do fine with changing to a new place since there are always different people in his room, he's used to new people. She's right.

I knew I had to make a change- now! I first called Pearce 4 Kids child care. This is the one I had originally wanted, but they were full at that time. They had an opening! I went the next day. I brought in the registration the following day, and- we're in! Pearce is the church on Roberts campus, a large Free Methodist church. I worked in Pearce nursery when I was a Roberts student, I attended some services, I was familiar with Pearce and it's programs. I loved that it was a Christian daycare. When Kian and I toured it Tuesday there was such a calm, happy feeling. It just had such a good vibe. What really made me feel good about this decision was seeing happy kids, smaller class sizes, no merging of classes, plenty of loving staff playing on the floor with kids (!) and most of all? Kian ran right into play and had a tantrum when I made him leave. Did you hear that? It was angels singing- music to my ears.

I am a bit worried about the new change, the transition. For me or him? I'm not sure. Both really. It does mean a change in my morning routine, as it's 5 minutes the opposite way, not close to the expressway like the other daycare. It's new teachers and kids for him. Everyone told me that if I was going to change, this is the time now, before he really made friends and attachments. It's true. We are going to bring him in a few times to get used to the room, teachers, etc. There's more security in this center, more for parents to do when they pick-up/drop-off. It is a bit more, price-wise, than the other. But, I know you get what you pay for.

We also talked with Kevin's mom, as she's been offering to watch him a day 1 week or a few days a month. So, she will be coming here on Mondays to watch him, and then he will go to Pearce 4 days a week. This also cuts down on the cost of daycare. So we will be paying less than we are now, he gets to stay home one day a week, and we get a better, Christian daycare. Good deal!

The kicker? The current daycare increased it's price (with no improvement in care or meals). They are rearranging rooms (to get more money) to fill as many slots as possible. Kian would end up being with 5 month-14 month olds. What? And the best? I went in to pick up Kian yesterday and Miss Kim tells us she put her two weeks in and would be leaving. Confirmation we made the right decision.

Of course I had just put a book order in with current daycare a week and a half ago! I'd better get it! So, on Monday the 8th Kian gets a home/grandma day, then we start Pearce. I have a good feeling about this!

*yawn*

I've been busy. I'm tired. There are a billion things going on in the next week and a half. So, here's my half-hearted attempt at a post. It's boring. It's random point&shoot pictures from a massive bonfire on Saturday. It was fun, fire was huge, considering we threw a Christmas tree, 2 doors, plywood sheets, lattice, set of deck stairs, and who knows what else on it. It burned all night long, and smoked for 12 more hours until I made Kevin hose it down because I was tired of the neighborhood smelling like a campground. Maybe later this week I'll finish up my EI posts, blog about something interesting (like that will happen) and discuss my daycare issues and changes. IF work lets me. It's crazy out there man!

Jocelyn and Kourtney


Elissa with Grant, Paul, Josh and Kristin



Meghan, Kevin, Amy & Mark



Joe relaxing by the fire.

*To be fair, none of then had any clue I was actually taking their picture. And yes, the "night" setting didn't do squat for helping my pictures. Whatever man. Like I said, I'm tired.

So many career choices...

From Chef...



To Gardener...



To Food Critic...


From Baby Lush...




To Dishwasher...





And finally GQ model...


Oh you think this one is so good you want to see it again? No problem. I, too, think it is most amazing. It looks like an old picture you found in your grandma's attic, no? And it captures the innocence of children discovering the world around them, yes? And you think I am the most magnificent photographer of the day? Until you click on my other bloggers... yes.


Early Intervention Series: Part IV: Process for receiving services

Part I: What is Early Intervention?
Part II: How do I know if my child needs EI and who do I contact?
Part III: What are delays and eligible diagnoses?

The process for receiving Early Intervention services varies in each state and sometimes in each county. It is similar in many ways throughout the country, but specifically I can describe the NY state process in detail.

The EI steps are: Referral, Evaluation, Initial IFSP meeting, Implementation of services, 6 month reviews, Discharge/closing.

Referral: A parent/guardian, pediatrician, caseworker, or other person, can make the referral to EI for the child. The county of which the child lives, is called and describes the developmental concerns to the intake/referral personnel. They are then given an appointment with an Initial Service Coordinator for either a screening or an evaluation, depending on the nature and severity of concerns. If a screening indicates probably delays they are also sent to an evaluation.

Evaluation: This is called a "core evaluation". It is conducted with a special education teacher and either a physical therapists or speech therapists (depending on concerns with each individual child), or sometimes both a motor and language person in addition to the ever-present education teacher. The scores will serve as a baseline for this child. Each developmental domain (social/emotional, self-help, communication, cognitive & motor) will be tested with recognized, standardized tests. Some tests that may be used are: Battelle, Peabody, PLS4, etc. The scores of these tests will show where, if any, delays are present for the child. These are the areas that will be addressed by services. A child may also be referred at this time for other specific evaluations such as: Occupational therapy/sensory, Audiological, and Developmental evaluation with a developmental pediatrician.

Initial IFSP meeting: After the evaluation determines the areas of need, a meeting will be held to complete the Individual Family Service Plan (IFSP). The Initial Service Coordinator (ISC) along with an evaluation representative will meet with the parents to determine services, frequency, etc. If a child's scores show delays in communication then a speech therapist will be added to the plan to address that domain. Frequency is determined by the severity of delay and other circumstances affecting the child and family. Generally, a child begins services 1xweek for an hour, per service. A child may start his EI stay with one service, or 5 +, depending on his needs. This plan begins the day it is written and goes for 6 months. IFSPs are renewed every 6 months with the On-going coordinator and team members to determine if the child continues to qualify or not.

Implementation of services: Services for the child begin immediately, as allowed or able to do so. Generally, the ISC, after reviewing the evaluation, will be able to tell which services the child will need, and will begin contacting providers to start as soon as possible with the family. Occasionally, there are not openings for specific services and a child will be placed on a waiting list until space opens up. Services are usually at home or daycare, in the child's "natural environment". This is similar to the "least restrictive environment" that the 3-5 CPSE system adheres to when authorizing services.

6 month review: The IFSP plan for each child is authorized for a maximum of 6 months, at which time it will be reviewed with the family, service providers/therapists, OSC and possibly a county representative (EIO/D). At any time before this, a therapist may determine the child needs more services, less service, another service in a different area, a supplemental evaluation of a different area, or discharge.
For example: If Johnny is receiving physical therapy because he is 18 months old and not walking, the PT will work on his motor skills. However, she might notice after working with Johnny for a few months that he isn't using words, and doesn't seem to understand directions. She will ask for a supplemental speech/language evaluation to see if Johnny qualifies and would benefit from speech.
At the 6 month IFSP review the team will discuss the child's beginning level of service/where they started, the goals the family had set for the 6 months, if the child has achieved them and needs to continue services, and new goals for the next 6 months. Then another plan will be developed, describing which services and frequencies of those services, the child will receive.

Discharge/closings: If a child, after receiving services for any length of time, has made enough progress that the family is satisfied (remember this is all voluntary and they can stop at anytime-unless mandated to receive services, which does happen with CPS Involvement) they can decide to close the EI case. Typically what happens is the therapists working with the child begin to see improvement and let the team know the child is nearing age appropriate skills and will no longer need the services. If the child receives more than one service, than they can continue on until all areas are addressed and age appropriate. (It's not exactly age appropriate development, just not "severe", a child may still have a mild speech delay, but not qualify for services, etc.) If the child receives only one service and has neared age appropriate skills, then they will be discharged from EI. Sometimes we need to close EI cases for other reasons, such as: family unresponsive to services, family has moved out of the area, decides they do not want services, unable to locate family to provide services, and many others... We do make sure the family has information to contact EI again, or their school district to re-evaluate the child should they ever need services again.

That is a brief overview of the entire EI process from start to finish (very brief!) and there are always a lot more details, questions, answers, and other steps to address.

Next topics, to finish my "series" are:

Part V: Role of EI team (and my job)
Part VI: Transitioning out of EI into CPSE services

I went to school with an Olympian

Not often I get to say that.


Jen Stuczynski won the Silver Medal in Pole Vaulting this week. And if there were point deductions for poor sportsmanship she would have won the Gold, not the trash-talking Russian. But, I digress.


I'm sure you know she's from NY. But, did you know she went to Roberts Wesleyan? At the same time as I did? Did you also know she was in at least one of my psychology classes?


She probably doesn't know me from a box of rocks, but hey, at least I can say I went to school with a Silver medal Olympian!

Camping again

So, last minute we decided to take off this past weekend and meet my parents at Alleghany State park. They had a cabin there for the week (a nice big one) and since we aren't really doing any 'vacations' this year we wanted to get away again quick.
Kian of course only slept a half hour of the 2 hour trip down, but didn't get cranky until we were just outside the park. He was very intrigued by looking out the windows and seeing everything, trees, cows, trucks (he likes pointing out trucks and other loud vehicles).

There were animals all over the park all weekend, we heard a lot on Friday night and saw them in the morning. When we woke up Saturday-meaning Kian and I, at 6:30-for some unknown reason he woke up and wouldn't sleep, possibly because it wasn't his room and he could see Kevin and I sleeping in there. And Kian isn't exactly quiet in the morning, he's not cranky, he's extremely happy, but noisy and talks up a storm. I took him down to the bathroom hoping to keep the rest of the campground sleeping. It was so foggy that morning and I wish I had taken pictures of that. (I am doing double photo ops all the time with the digital and then the Nikon film, so I only get a few on here) There were also several deer about 50-100 yards from us, not afraid at all, just eating away.

After breakfast Kian went for a nap and Kevin and I got away to play some tennis and walk down to the beach area. Of course after that Kevin and Kian were ready for lunch. Then we took the kayaks out on the lake and just laid around on the beach. The water wasn't that warm and it was windy so it wasn't exactly good for swimming. Kenny and Kevin decided water football was better:





Here's Kian trying to walk in the deep sand:


Then deciding that crawling is better:




Kevin and I took the kayaks around the lake for a bit. We put Kian's life jacket on him and tried to take him out, but he was tired and not having it. But, he decided that sitting in 3 inches of water and playing with the paddles was fun:

Saturday night we had a nice fire, marshmallows, smores, the works. After the kids went to bed Kevin, my mom and I had some wine around the fire. Who brings wine to a camping trip? My mom apparently, and waited til we got there to drink some. It was nice and quiet and relaxing.

While we packed up Sunday, the kids drew on the cement "porch" of the cabin. So glad I thought to bring the chalk, they loved it:

photo confessions 2

After I scheduled the last 3 posts, because we were going away for the weekend (more on that later, along with 23235 other things) I didn't really look at how the pictures looked (on my photo confession blog) posted on there, where I was trying to point out subtle differences. (And that is the longest run-on weird sentence ever).

Trust me, in real life, in my hands, the pictures look different. But, forgetting that once I scanned the film printed photo onto my scanner and into my computer it becomes a digital picture...yeah how's that working for me? So, on the blog, it appears that there are not really any differences between the pictures. But, there is. Honest. I just prefer the film finished pictures over digitally taken, ink printed photos. I wonder how long that ink will last anyway? Will it fade quicker than chemically developed film pictures? Things one never knows...

Now, I must go yell at that darn diving girl who is taking way way way too long on the diving board. And I love listening to the announcer say Guo Jingjing.

photography confessions...

I am still pretty smitten with film. *gasp* Yes, film. I adore my Nikon "regular" film camera. I know film. I've known film all my life. I've only had a digital camera for a year and a half.

Don't get me wrong, I absolutely love that I can take a picture and 2 minutes later send it half way around the world. But, digital pictures, when printed just seem to be lacking. In what? I am not sure. I always "fix" my digital pictures before printing them (or even better sending them to be printed at wegmans so I can pick them up while I shop and not waste my ink or paper!) and I fix the red eyes, sharpen, adjust the tints, etc. in my prehistoric Microsoft Picture It! program. (Because my husband makes me pay my mortgage instead of getting fancy and, in his mind, unnecessary, photo programs.) But, there's just something 'flat' about them. For some reason, film pictures seem more alive and have more depth. I can be swayed, if you provide substantial proof.Now, I know that I only have a point and shoot digital Kodak camera. But, I've learned the settings and switch it up (sports or children setting is best for pictures of Kian!). I've learned to adjust the light filters, exposure length, etc. and so on. If I had this fancy Nikon digital SLR I might be having an immediate mind change. However, Kian's professional portraits were taken on an professional Nikon and printed digitally and you can just tell. I can always pick out a digital print over a film print. Somethings just...something about it.

When using the Nikon film camera I tend to take way less pictures, and capture better pictures. There is no delay with the Nikon film, as there is with my Kodak digital, so I get exactly what I am trying to capture. With this point and shoot digital I take 80 pictures and only about 3 are great, 10 are good, 15 are okay.

The other day I took a roll with my Nikon and about 25 with the Kodak digital. Only 3 were 'bad' on the entire roll, where as only 3 were 'good' on my digital. Here's a test, you tell me which ones are digital and which are film:

1)


2)


3)



4)




answer key? 1. digital 2. film 3. film and 4. digital.

Okay, the flag wasn't the best, I took that while Kevin was driving at least 70 on the Parkway (what is a parkway you ask? the expressway that runs along Ontario Lake good sir), and it is stuck in my car vent with the wind blowing. But, I'm a secret film lover still. More to come on this Vintage sailor suit photo op. Ooh oh and Please notice the aperature changes in #2, I know how to do that on my film camera! PPS--my weathered fence makes a great photo prop/backdrop! That is all.

The Lugia's Dance

Lugias. Ahh, just say the name and I start to drool. A small, local ice cream shop, (Is it considered a shop Jon?) with huge- massively huge, ice cream cones. Seriously, I usually order the baby size and that fills me up. The small, isn't. The large, is probably a 1/2 gallon, like empty that box right into the cone. It's crazy. And the flavors are so incredibly diverse and random: soft black raspberry, soft black raspberry/vanilla twist, strawberry cheesecake, yellow cake mix, blueberry buckle, and on and on it goes.


Where was this post headed? Oh yeah. So, when Casey was up from NC (he's a Rochester native anywho) we headed to Lugia's for some long anticipated ice cream. Kian decided he needed to do some dancing on the table:

(pictures taken by Paul, edited by me, of course)


I played with this one a lot, sharpened Kian, blurred the background, converted to B&W but then adjusted the contrast brightness. I rather like how it came out:

A summer day in pictures

The first two almost made it into yesterdays "WWWaT" contest. But, I didn't feel the need for everyone to see that we hadn't gotten the weedwacker close to the hot tub lately. Or that the stones need to be weeded too! EEk. So, here I am showing them now, because that makes sense.





Here's baby boy standing up, no hands in the middle of the grass



This was just a cool perspective


He loves making this face lately. Sometimes he even snorts while he does it-hilarious!


Pre-bedtime swing on the hammock, being smooshed by mommy


I have an abundance of tomatoes in my garden and while I picked them and laid them on the deck he climbed up and was rolling and throwing them off. Thanks buddy.


He gets a kick out of sticking his fingers in my 'holey' shoes. Nope, not Crocs, I'm way to cheap for that. So, not a brand name snob.


Eating a tomato like an apple, that's my boy!

And that, was our Sunday afternoon and evening...

Early Intervention Series: Part III: What are delays and eligible diagnoses?

Part I: What is Early Intervention?
Part II: How do I know if my child needs EI and who do I contact?

First, I want to define and discriminate between a developmental disability, a developmental delay and a diagnosis. All three are seen in EI and addressed by EI therapies, however they are different, they have different outcomes generally, and are addressed in different manners.

What is a developmental disability?
For explanation I turn to wikipedia:

"Developmental disability is a term used to describe life-long disabilities attributable to mental and/or physical impairments, manifested prior to age twenty-two (I've heard 21), affecting daily functioning in three or more of the following areas:

  • capacity for independent living
  • economic self-sufficiency
  • learning
  • mobility
  • receptive and expressive language
  • self-care/self-direction

Frequently, people with mental retardation, Cerebral Palsy, Autism spectrum disorder, various genetic and chromosomal disorders such as Down syndrome and Fragile X syndrome, and Fetal Alcohol Spectrum Disorder are described as having developmental disabilities.Developmental disabilities are usually classified as severe, profound, moderate or mild, as assessed by the individual's need for supports, which may be lifelong."

So, a disability is generally a lifelong issue, although there are exceptions to every rule. And diagnoses are sometimes interchangeable with developmental disability, but not always. Got it? Good. That's how EI is, ever changing and confusing.


What exactly is a developmental delay?

A developmental delay is simply that, a delay in development and skills one would be expected to have at any given age. It differs from a developmental disability in that, it's usually not a lifelong issue. Parents with more than one child often notice a difference or a 'lag' in one of their child's skill areas; as being slower from their other children's development. First time parents may not notice these lags as easily, having nothing to compare to. Doctors often make the referrals for a screening or evaluation during a well child check, when they notice the child is behind in physical or communication skills, as they are the most easily spotted delays.

A child must have a 33% delay in one developmental domain, or 25% delay in 2 or more developmental domains to qualify for EI services. This varies with age and skill expecation for the age. Domains include: social/emotional, cognitive, communication, physical and selfhelp/adaptive skills. An EI evaluation will confirm suspected delays in one or more areas.

What are red flags I might notice in my child's development, signaling a developmental delay; or signaling the need for further evaluation?

Physical concerns:
*Seems either very stiff or very floppy like a rag doll; uses one side more than the other (at any age)
*Lack of head control by 4 months
*Cannot grasp a rattle or toy by 4 months
*Not rolling or attempting to roll by 6 months
*Cannot sit with help when the body is put in a sitting position by 7 months.
*Does not crawl or drags one side while crawling by 12 months
*Cannot stand when supported by 12 months
*Not using pincer grasp by 12 months
*Cannot push a wheeled toy by 18 months
*Does not walk by 18 months or walks exclusively on the toes, or other atypical motor pattern.

Social/language/cognitive concerns:
*Does not respond to sounds or turn her or his head to locate sounds by 6 months.
*Does not laugh, make squealing sounds, smile spontaneously, babble, try to attract attention, or show interest in peek-a-boo by 7 months.
*Does not point to objects or pictures, or search for objects that are hidden while he or she watches, by 12 months
*Says no single words (or word approximations such as "ba" for ball) by 12 months
*Does not learn to use gestures, such as waving, head shaking, peekaboo, clapping, by 12 months
*Does not speak at least 15 words and begin to use two-word sentences 18 months
*2 year olds should have a minimum of 50 words (about 70% intelligible to familiar people)
*Does not seem to know the function of common household objects like telephones and utensils by 18-24 months
*Does not imitate actions or words or follow simple instructions such as "give mommy the ball" by 24 months

Feeding/oral motor concerns:
*Not being able to swallow or accept spoon properly a month or so after food has been introduced.
*Not being able to accept various textures, thicknesses of foods
*Refusal of table foods/solids, preference for babyfoods/purees.
*Excessive spillage from bottle, breast or spoon while eating (babies new to solids will dribble at first)
*Inability to swallow properly, take food from spoon, or form good seal around nipple (newborns) --some children are tongue tied making this hard to do.
*Preference for one particular food/drink, refusal to accept others
*Not finger feeding self, interest in utensils by 12-18 months

*A regression in any skill your child has mastered and suddenly stops doing. This happens occasionally, a child might 'forget' the skill for a short time, but should be able to do it again.

Any atypical behaviors:
*hand-flapping
*constant head-banging (not just during tantrums, all the time)
*excessive (abnormal/atypical) 'energy' or need to run, jump, crash into things
*abnormal rocking of head and/or body
*lack of safety awareness
*continued uncoordinated movements, clumsiness

Other Sensory type behaviors:
*tags on shirts bothers skin
*can't touch certain textures (paint, pudding, koosh balls, etc. some children actually gag or drool if they touch certain textures.)
*inability to handle loud noises, crowds, many activities at once (overstimulation)
*inability to focus in those loud, crowded environments
*love of deep pressure, aversion to light touch (some of these kids love to hit so they can feel that *deep pressure input, loves jumping off couches and big bear hugs);
*or the opposite-cannot stand deep touches
*loves swinging, spinning excessively; or opposite-fear of swinging, spinning, being off the ground
*refusal to be bathed, hair washed, teeth brushed, hair cut, etc.
*difficulty transitioning from one activity, or place, to another

*Any feeling that your child's skills 'just aren't right' or 'a bit off'. Listen to that mommy intuition.

Many pediatricians tell parents to wait, and wait, and wait, with many excuses (he's a boy, boys talk late; s/he's a middle child, they're behind the eldest always; s/he's the baby of the family, everyone else talks for them; they'll catch up; it's no big deal; every child is different; don't worry; wait it out; etc.) and you risk losing valuable time doing that.

This site has great milestones divided by age and domain.


What are (recognized) diagnoses?
For EI, some diagnoses automatically qualify a child for services. It doesn't determine the amount of service a child receives, as that is decided by the team and how much of a delay the child shows due to that diagnosis. Some diagnoses are made before birth via ultrasound and testing (such as Down syndrome, or heart/brain/limb abnormalities). Some are made at birth due to appearance and physical indicators, and yet others are not diagnosed for months or years depending on the characteristics and symptoms a child shows.

Some common automatic EI qualifiers:
Autism/PDD
Down Syndrome
Prematurity (certain extreme low birth weights)
HPLH syndrome
profound deafness/hearing impairment
blindness
Cerebral Palsy
certain neurological, metabolic, or genetic disorders, chromosomal anomaly,
honestly there are several more, and I should have looked at my reference manual before I blogged this tonight!


Helpful sites:

Red Flags for Autism: http://www.firstsigns.org/concerns/flags.htm
Zero to Three: www.zerotothree.org
http://www.healthychild.net/articles/sh39redflag.html

Next up: Part IV: Process for receiving EI services

WWWaT: A different view

Once again, I'm joining the multitude of contestants in Rachel's WWWaT (wordless Wednesday with a twist!). This week's theme is "A Different View". At first, I thought I had no idea how to do this and wouldn't be able to do it. But, then playing on the floor with Kian, I started taking pictures from his view. So, without further ado, and much less words:





























And with the copious amounts of rain lately, we've finally been rewarded by this:


*those 'poles' are a foosball table just in case you were wondering, and the darts are my fave!

Early Intervention Series: Part II: How do I know if my child needs EI and who do I contact?

Part I: What is Early Intervention can be found here.

How do I know if my child needs Early Intervention or other services?
What are symptoms or characteristics I might look for?
If I see things I am concerned about, what do i do? Who do I contact?

Now that you know what Early Intervention is, how do you know if your child, or a child close to you might benefit from Early Intervention services? There are several ways a child makes his or her way into EI.

The first way a child might enter the EI system is at birth. Children who are referred for services at birth are: premature babies; those diagnosed with a disease, disability or syndrome that affects growth and/or development; something diagnosed in utero or at birth. The parents of these children often are made aware that the child will be referred immediately after birth.

The most common way children are referred to EI is by the pediatrician. At one of the child's well checks, while the doctor runs through a few developmental questions they might notice something about the child, or the parent might alert the doctor to a concern that causes a referral to be made. Most often this happens at the 18 month and 2 year check up.

Just as often, the parents, themselves make the referral. They have a concern about some aspect of their child's development and would like to have it further assessed. Sometimes the pediatrician's downplay the parents' concerns and tell them to wait, but the parent would rather have the child evaluated sooner. Or they just begin to notice something is different, slower, or not typical and want the referral.

Another possible way is that the child, typically developing to this point, has an illness, an injury, or some other traumatic event that causes a "pause", or a complete stop, or a total loss in their developmental skills; or the child is laid up recovering and needs help to catch up to their previous development.

There is, finally, always the daycare, CPS, ER or other referral. The child had been "flying under the radar" until an event where both parent and child are reviewed in depth and concerns are noted. Daycares often refer multiple children for screenings at the same time. Sometimes the parents must follow EI services and comply with them as a requirement of a court order, or other mandated reasoning.

If a parent notices concerns they have a few options for referral to EI. They can contact their pediatrician to discuss the concerns and see if the pediatrician agrees a referral should be made. They can contact EI directly and ask for a screening or evaluation. Each county, in every state, has a type of EI program (no matter what it is named) and can be found by calling the Public Health dept. Visiting nurses, hospitals, daycare providers are usually familiar with the EI system and can help parents access EI or make the referral for them.

Next time: in depth discussions about what is considered a developmental delay, what diagnosis receives an EI referral, what are "red flags" that parents might notice or look for in their child...

Part I: What is Early Intervention?

Walking Video

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Walking! Recap of the week...

It's been eventful and even crazy this past week. We've had lots of company, work has been extremely busy, and then there's the weather. This "summer" weather is depressing me. It's rained every day. Seriously. Every day. For about 4 weeks it's been rainy, cloudy and just...blah. It's very hard to do anything, go anywhere, be outside, or have any energy, when the weather just will not cooperate!

Sunday my parents and the kids came up because we hadn't seen them in about a month. Kian of course loved seeing everyone. My mom really wanted to see him walking and kept encouraging him to do it. That evening he was taking more steps outside. He'd been taking 2-3 alone between furniture, but then later that night I turned around from the computer and he took 10 across the living room. Of course. I also made a great pizza with tomato and pesto sauce!

Monday I arrived at daycare to pick up Kian and his teacher says "did they tell you about him?" I said no, figuring he had fallen and hurt himself or something. She says "I don't know if I should tell you." I said "what are you talking about? Tell me!" She said he was walking around the room today, 5 steps here, 8 steps there, etc. But, she didn't know if he had started taking steps at home and didn't want to 'ruin it' if he hadn't, if we hadn't seen him do it first. I assured her he'd been taking steps at home too. And so, when we got home, I put him down and that was that. He's been a walker ever since. He still crawls at times and especially if he wants something fast. He realizes he can get there faster by crawling still.

Tuesday I spent almost half of my day in the car. I had to drive to Hamlin, but not just Hamlin, far, far, north Hamlin. It's a 40 minute drive out, 40 minute drive back and I was there at the client's home for an hour and a half. And it was hot, and it's a lot of gas. These are the days it really stinks working for the county.

Wednesday was just a long day and so we decided to have dinner at the little diner in North Chili. It's decent. Kian is at the point where there's always enough food in our meals that we just share with him, he doesn't need his own meal yet. And I am not ready to pay for a kid's meal yet. They're always unhealthy choices and not cheap. He has a fascination with dipping now though. He shared a steak sandwich wit peppers and onions on it, with me and insisted on dipping it in Kevin's ketchup, my salad dressing, the au jus that came with it, etc. He didn't care what, he just wanted to dip it. He also loves putting the straws in the cups. And he doesn't care that Kevin always gives him the straw paper. He thinks that is a straw too, and insists on putting that straw wrapper in one of our cups. So, we let him, then when he's not looking, throw it away. We always get compliments on how well-behaved he is, how cute he is, how he's so quiet, etc. when we are out. Kian rarely gets loud or obnoxious, especially when there's food around. We've always been able to take him out to restaurants, which is nice.

I really have no idea what we did on Thursday. Hmm... This seems to be the day I always forget. Mostly because Mondays stick out, then Fridays are what I look forward to and so they remain imprinted in my memory.

Friday Kevin had company, they played poker and then I joined in for some euchre. It's been a long time since I've played euchre! It was Casey's last day in NY for awhile, as he headed back to NC to start the school year. We went to bed way to late.

Saturday I met Patrick and Savannah in Henrietta and while their Blazer was being worked on, we had breakfast at IHOP, Kian loved it. Then we made the rounds to all the stores in Henrietta, 2 furniture stores, Gander Mt., Target, etc. I only made one purchase at Target, and it was for Kevin. Then I convinced them to help me shop at the Henrietta Wegmans before dropping them back off to Cortese. However, I couldn't quite convince them that we needed to shop at the brand-new, amazingly huge Wegmans on Calkins, so I settled for the tiny one on Hylan Drive. But, it was that store's 25 anniversary and they were giving away free pieces of cake among other samples. And I am all about free food!
After leaving the house at 8:30 that morning, we finally returned at 3:15, I put groceries away and got Kian to finally nap around 4. All this time Kevin was helping his friend move into their new house. He called me around 6, when Kian was just waking up, and we went over to check out the house. So, at last, about 7:30 we returned home and ate dinner. Talk about a long day.

Today, Sunday, I am all about the "day of rest". No company, no trips, no outings, no nothing. Just sitting around, doing absolutely nothing. Kian has already been down for a nap for over an hour. I tried to go back to sleep, but it just wasn't happening, thanks to cats running through the house and jumping on my bed and me, repeatedly. But, I am going to upload some pictures and video, then I will be reading the paper on my deck, in the sunny, but cool weather. And doing ... absolutely ... nothing!

130 and how you ask?

I just have to brag for a minute here. Give me 20 seconds of self-indulgence, self-centered boasting. 130. 130 pounds! I haven't seen this number in quite a long time.

I'll be completely honest here too. I was in the low 140's when I got pregnant and gained 38lbs during my pregnancy. I believe I was around 182 when I gave birth. Sickening isn't it? (I wasn't as careful as I should have been, especially the last month full of huge Lugia's mint chocolate chip waffle cones.)

The first 6 months I didn't do anything except a walk around the block occasionally. I felt that since all the holidays were upon us, what was the point of trying to lose weight and diet then? But, I was still steadily losing some weight, even slowly. This is completely, 100% due to the breastfeeding.

After Christmas I got serious. When Kian went down for his morning naps I had an hour and a half to two hours and I used it wisely. I would run/jog on the treadmill (in interval speeds and inclines) for 20-30 minutes. Then I would circuit around the weight equipment. Yes, I know not everyone has that, but all you need is a couple of dumbbells for all the easy-peasy exercises I was doing.

The weight started melting off. Then, I started back to work. I had zero time in the beginning to do anything, except take an occasional walk again.

Here's the other thing that made a huge difference, you can believe it or not, it's up to you. But when everyone asks me how I lost all this weight (52 pounds since last June) I tell them: breastfeeding and changing my diet. Because I haven't put a ton of exercise into it lately at all, and I am still losing.

The diet part: Kevin had been getting sick a lot and having weird symptoms and when nothing was being figured out and nothing was helping I said, we need to change our diet. So, out went everything with any kind of artificial, chemical, excess junk. I always buy tons of produce, about half of my grocery bill is on produce alone. We do not buy pop (soda for the rest of you), we drink only 100% juices. I do not drink milk. Kevin and Kian drink organic milk (hormone/antibiotic free thank you!) We eat a ton of chicken, red meat only about once a week. Pork here and there. Pastas are whole wheat. Potato chips are a rarity- for Kevin only. No pop-tarts, no cookies, nada.

I've always been 'healthy' eater and a label reader. But, now I'm a serious label reader. The fewer ingredients it has, the more likely it will go into my cart. If it has tons of ingredients, and chemical sounding ones, or ones I can't pronounce and don't know what it is, it goes back on the shelf.
No high fructose corn syrup. That is the biggest calorie sucker ever. A brief lesson: HFCS is processed through the body differently than regular sugar/natural sugars. From what I read it has to do with the liver and ends up using different stores in our bodies and then stores this 'sugar' as a fat. Kevin always asks why people are so huge, I say because they eat so much processed food!
I'm not the super food Nazi. Kevin has ice cream every week. Kian has had cakes and cookies (funny thing is he doesn't really like them that much). But I keep it simple, more produce, less processed foods, lots of multi grains.

Breakfast is oatmeal or yogurt/granola, I have a snack around 10-usually a granola bar, lunch is a turkey sandwich on whole wheat, carrots, pretzels, piece of fruit. When I get home I might have a quick snack while making dinner which is usually chicken in salad, chicken in pasta, grilled chicken, etc. (we love chicken) with whole grain/brown rice, and whatever veggie I make. "Desserts" for me and Kian are Edy's natural fruit bars. They are delicious! With real strawberry chunks in them!

So, that is how I believe I have lost, and continue to lose weight. I guess having a baby was good for me. =)

Irrational Thoughts on a Thursday

So, due to my extreme envy I've thought this through and decided I can just not pay my mortgage for one month, maybe next month, and then I can purchase BOTH the Nikon digital camera AND PhotoshopCS3 that I so desperately covet. Good idea huh? I thought so too.

Or not, since my son is becoming a wine-o (or is it wino?)

Early Intervention Series: Part I What IS EI? An introduction to your EI system

Early Intervention (EI) is a federally mandated, federally funded program, in line with IDEA, to assist children, ages birth through three years old, with disabilities, delays and diagnosis, to receive help, education and assistance they need.

What?
EI is federally mandated, meaning every state has to have some type of program in place to help children 0-3 who are showing a developmental delay, or have a diagnosis of some sort. The government tells the states they must have this program, but leave it up to each state how to run it (and what to call it). Here in NY the health department oversees EI and each county's health department or maternal/child health program oversees EI services within that county.

For who?
Any child identified as having a developmental delay, recognized diagnosis, age birth to three years old. Regardless of income, any child is eligible for EI services if they show delays in developmental areas or receive a diagnosis at any time.

Associated Costs?
In NY no fees are associated with EI at all. This varies from state to state. Having referred clients to other states, I know that Texas is a sliding-scale fee for services, based on income. They look at the parents' income and family is charged X dollars per month for all services the child receives. The client I was referring was going to pay only $15/month, but still it can add up. Honestly, NY has one of, if not, the best EI and disability services, and access to services. One family told me that in Florida her son could not receive occupational therapy unless he was severely Autistic. Her son was not Autistic, but desperately needed OT for fine motor and sensory processing. He could not receive it until they moved to NY.

This is why, on my end, the job can be stressful. As there are no fees to the families and it is federally and locally funded, my job is a 'fee for service' job. Which means, we have to maintain certain numbers and percentages to keep things afloat. But, that is not for families and recipients of EI to worry about. Just a tidbit for you.

What's next?
In preparation for the rest of my EI series, let me familiarize you with some acronyms. There are a multitude of acronyms used in EI (see?) and can be confusing for families at first. We try to remember that we use these daily but parents are new to the system and can be easily overwhelmed.
EI: Early Intervention

ISC: Initial Service Coordinator (in Monroe County, it's the first person you meet with to discuss EI)

OSC: On-going Service Coordinator (this is my job, this person stays with you throughout your EI 'stay')

IFSP: Individual Family Service Plan (this is similar to an IEP, the plan that states services for the child)

That brings us to IEP: Individualized Education Plan (this is used from 3 years and up, not in EI)

OT: Occupational Therapy
PT: Physical Therapy
SLP: Speech Language Pathologist, or our shortcut for saying speech
Sped: special education services
SEIT: Special Education Itinerant Teacher (this is used in CPSE on your IEP, not in EI)
CPSE: Committee for Preschool Special Education (who we meet with when your child ages out of EI, in your district)
SW: Social Work/social worker
AT or AT equip: Assistive Tech equipment (includes specialized braces, walkers, chairs, etc.)
NUT: Nutrition services

Extended visit: technically this visit, by your therapist, is from around 60 minutes or more, typically it is an hour at your home.
Basic visit: this visit by therapists is from 1-59 minutes, but usually about 30 minutes.
Clinic visits: therapy sessions at a clinic/agency
Home-based: visits at your home, also daycare, or community site (library, playground, etc).

Also, here is my plan of what else you need to know about EI:

Part II: How do I know if my child needs EI and who do I contact?
Part III: What are delays and eligible diagnoses?
Part IV: Process for receiving EI services
Part V: Role of EI team (and my job)
Part VI: Transitioning out of EI into CPSE services

Any other things I may think off will make their way in here also.

Saturday Morning Post

It's raining...again. Surprised? No. The last 3 weeks it has rained more than I remember in several summers. I don't mind rain in the evenings and every so often, as this gives me a good excuse to stay inside and clean thoroughly. Kian wants to go out, rain or not. Which we do, even if it is on the deck for a few minutes to feel the rain, or into the garage to ride in his Little Tykes car. He loves that thing.

What is a surprise is that I am not at Wegmans grocery shopping. Why you ask? Because my sleep-deprived child woke up at 7:30 and was ready for a nap at 9 am after a shower and breakfast. Since he's moved into Infant 2 room (12-18 months) last week, he's not been taking very good naps. Which, I expected. It took him quite a while to get a rhythm with his previous teacher and finally took 2-2.5 hour naps. (Which still isn't enough for him, as he takes 2 naps on weekends, or a one 3.5 hour mid-day nap.) The problem is, that when we get home from work/daycare he is exhausted. If Kevin brings him home early he will put him down for a nap. When I pick Kian up I get home around 4:30 and it's very hard for me to decide if I should let him sleep for a bit or not. Lately, I have been putting him down for 45 minutes while I make dinner. Then we will wake him up to eat around 5:30 and he'll still be ready for bed and fall asleep by 8 o'clock at the latest. I think, soon, he should fall into a more comfortable rhythm in his new class and take longer naps (longer than the 45 minutes to 1 hour he's been taking).

So, here I sit, half cleaning, half blogging, making a grocery list in my head, biding my time to go to Wegmans. I am so in love with that store. Kevin's friend is up from NC this week and he was telling us the *horrors* of Kroger, Harris Teeter and random other grocery stores available to him in Durham. I am so sorry for him. (lol) My apologies to all southern state citizens; I wish you Wegmans, and will not mock your stores any longer. (PS it's rumored that Wegmans has some land plots in the making in NC...it's coming!)

Work-wise, it's been an eventful and stressful week. We are *welcoming* 2 new employees Monday. That is always very stressful and very busy for the seasoned staff. We have so much to do and to add that is a bit hard, especially this time of the month when we are closing so many kids from our EI summer services to preschool services. (It is in my blog brain plans to do some EI related posts so that everyone has a glimmer of understanding of what I speak of). Then, of course, The Diva (aka Megan) informed us she is leaving us to do the same job at another (competition?) agency! Fear ran rampant in the hallway Friday as we all hid behind closed doors and under desks, while Megan informed our supervisor..and Amy. Thankfully, she just went home and we were able to avoid the wrath of an angry supervisor. Whew!

On a side-note. I always get irritated when I read blogs and people use other descriptors instead of their child/husband/whoever names. I understand you want privacy, which I think for me, means not posting last names, social security numbers, addresses, etc. But, I can't keep it straight when people call their kids T12, B7 (first initial and age) um, your child's age will change which means next year it will be T13 and B8, which I just can't figure out. Or, many use descriptor names such as "smiley", "Mr. athlete", "lego king", etc. I think this is because I am visual and I need faces matched with names. However, at work, I have absolutely no problem giving the girls nicknames. Mostly, because there are 2 Megans, but also because there are very distinct personalities (which I know, is the same reason for blog nicknames, but more confusing!). So, there's The Diva, Scrapper, Queen, The Girl-next-door, Martha Stewart (yeah that's me), and the boss has several nicknames, but besides "evil one" I can't tell you what the girls say.

Since, Jon was so nice and gave Kian/us a Zoo membership for Kian's birthday, I wanted to use it today. We will have to see if the sun stays out and the clouds stay away. He might be a tad young, or it might be a bit of a pain because he's not walking yet, but he will love it. He loves animals and loves pointing to everything. He loves dogs lately, shrieks when he sees one, and pants. It's hilarious. Rocky is extremely patient with him, letting him slap, pet and pull fur. Thank you Rocky.

Our week, was busy as usual, but not overly exciting. There were brakes to replace on Kevin's Blazer, gas tanks to fill with cheaper gas (yay for BJ's and price drops!) company to have, etc. My dad informed me last night he got me a free package of the new Wegmans diapers, the new and improved ones, score! (Sadly, with daycare now, I haven't used cloth barely at all, save for a few around the house here and there.) And my mom bought a G6, the same car I so miserably gave up a few months ago. Sigh. My sister is looking at more surgery in August, not good for her. Hmm, I believe that's all the news I found out recently.

Here's to a sunny, peaceful weekend!

Confessions

I would absolutely love to ride/drive/own a motorcycle. What's hotter than a chick on a bike?

I hate shoes. I rarely wear them, even at work, and my supervisor has told me to keep them on...oops.

I feel ashamed and guilty my child (still) has a pacifier.

I totally freaked out this weekend when my hand brushed a monstrous, furry, tarantula-er- spider. I kept it somewhat quiet because we were at the campground, but had to wash my hand immediately.

Sometimes, I tell Kevin I have to use the bathroom, but really I just sit there and read magazines for a ten minute period of peace and quiet...shh!

I, not-so-secretly, hope Kian doesn't want to run track/cross country like Kevin. I find it too boring to watch. I'll take soccer and football, even baseball, over that.

I've regifted before.

I really, really meant to send out thank you cards for Kian's birthday, but just haven't...yet...

I don't drink milk, and you can't make me!

I got rid of/donated a few of Kevin's shirts he doesn't know about.

I'm beginning to get baby girl fever.