We are finishing up our third week of "school" here today. I decided to start slowly in the last week of August to become familiar with our reinstated schedule. The first week of minimal work and routine was great. Last week, the second week, with more focus and some more demands, was met with resistance and not so fun. Of course that week we were also studying love/showing others love, in our Bible lessons. This week has been going fantastic...fantastically? One of those.
Now that everyone knows the routine (it's posted in the school room for school expectations and in the kitchen for daily routine and chores they check off) we are in a much better groove. Of course there are still times when there's resistance or whining or something, I'm not sweating it. Karter has been sick this week and sleeping later and so Kian and I have been starting school early, before 8 am, and flying through things easily.
While, taking them to all my appointments can be a pain (still a bunch), it's nice that we can work around those times and have so much flexibility. Not only in time, but in what and how and when we do things, what curriculum or units we're studying, etc. If Kian wants to go on a tangent about how connects the topics of Charlotte's Web to our Bible lesson to the plant life book, go for it. If he wants to build pyramids out of legos, great. If we decide instead of butterflies to go with dinosaurs, that's cool too. I've learned to let go of my Type A planning and have more ability to go with the flow. There's no hard and fast rules about when and what and how we learn stuff (yet) in the state.
There are a few requirements, such as fire prevention/safety and abuse prevention, that we are covering this month to get out of the way. Other than that, most of the goals I had set for Kian, well... he's already halfway to mastering them. He decided the other day he wanted to know about Roman Numerals too. Not in my plan, but he kept seeing them in books as chapter titles and wanted me to teach it. So I did, the basics, but it's nice to be able to do that instead of saying "well in 3rd grade you will learn that" sort of thing.
History is: The Story of the World and so far we're enjoying it. We do history/geography twice per week right now. It's easy to read and understand and interesting for us all.
Language Arts: We are starting cursive due to Kian's trouble with printing and left-handedness. Montessori schools start cursive early and I like the idea after I read the research (briefly here), so we shall see how it goes. We're reading Charlotte's Web aloud together. Grammar basics were easy for Kian so we're moving onto the next concepts, like pronouns and sentence formation, etc.
Math: It's kind of all over the place. He, on his own, has figured out some multiplication. I'm giving him double digit adding and subtracting, along with time (which he also has pretty much mastered, as he tells me how many minutes it will be in x hours, and can read a regular/non-digital clock to the 5 min marks) and money (he knows coins and we're moving on to adding dollars, etc.)
Science: anything that's plant or animal life. The textbook I have is The Animal Kingdom. A nice basics of animals, mammals, vertebrates, insects, etc. Mostly we're using library non-fiction for bugs and insects at this point. The Magic Schoolbus books are great for early science. (hint hint for Christmas, we don't own any)
Everything else we add in, using various resources.
We are able to get everything done by lunchtime, taking a quick snack/run around break in the middle. We may save the chapter reading aloud until later or bedtime. Then the "PE" and Art are done whenever, after that. Chores are first thing after breakfast, which makes it easier for us all. No screen time (aka tv, computer-unless it's school related, video games, etc.) until chores and school are completed. That was the hardest for them, as I had been letting them watch a show in the morning before or after breakfast. But, it was not ending and they'd fight it, so no tv, no fight, win-win.
Hopefully things continue as they are now. I am fully anticipating changes and tweaks during/after the baby comes. Being ahead with things right now though, definitely helps because we can allow more breaks in our schedule.There was a couple days I thought "dang it, today I would like to put his attitude whiny butt on a bus and get a break!" But, that passed and so has the attitude. Thankfully. We will just assess how it is year by year. So far, so good. We're happy with how it's going right now.
Almost schooling time
Although we have been doing learning activities all summer long, in small bursts and spurts, we will "officially" start "school" next week, along with everyone else. This week is getting back into routine and making sure our books, work areas, desks, etc. are tidied up and ready to go. Books are being pulled out and worksheets prepared. I've spent the last couple weeks making lesson plans, then totally rewriting them. Finding one program or curriculum and then changing it. It's nice to be able to do that.
There are certain topics we must cover, says NY state and the district. So, those are in the plans for the year. Then, a lot of what Kian wants to cover-Nature studies (bugs, animals, etc.) which also are called for in NYS. There's freedom of what you want to cover and when. As long as I cover 80% of what I said we would, and he shows progress over the year, we're set.
The internet and facebook groups have been a treasure trove of free and cheap materials. So many worksheets online for free. I've gone through a lot of ink in 3 weeks. I also purchased a laminater too so that some things will be able to be used several times, instead of printing them often. Ebay has been my best friend as well. Those homeschoolers looking to get rid of material and make some change, have listed endless books and resources on the site. I have gotten a bunch of stuff for a few bucks. It's great.
We're using library and free, printed worksheets from MacGraw-Hill for grammar/English curriculum. Science-we have a ton of non-fiction/reference books on every subject and animal, along with library and also using Answers In Genesis books about Nature and the planet Earth. Social Studies and geography, I am still working on but am waiting for my final bid on ebay on "Story of the World". SOtW is as it says, story form, for elementary kids, of history from beginning of time until now. I prefer the chronological coverage of history vs one time period, then another, or this person, then that country, etc. And what's best if that you can use the volumes (probably 1 per year) and cycle them, adding more in depth information and projects as the kids get older. So, Karter can jump in when he's ready and they will all get all the information at some point. Math-whatever I find. We have multiple workbooks from kindergarten until 4th grade, on all topics from adding/subtracting, multiply/divide, time, money, measure, etc. Art, Music, Health will be added into relevant unit studies. And yes, Karter has some preschool objectives and curriculum as well. (We discussed preschool for him in the area, but....that was it.)
I submitted my IHIP (intention for homeschool instruction plan-or something similar) with a list of things in each area that we will be covering. True to form, by the time I wrote it and received the OK back, Kian demonstrated to me, that he already knew about 70% of these concepts--especially in Math and Science. Good, then I'm off the hook a bit with a new born baby to take care of and recover from delivering, knowing I can honestly turn in the reports that he knows all this stuff. Then we can focus on other stuff like handwriting--for him will be cursive. (This, because he struggles with printing and being left handed, I did some research, turns out cursive writing-aka penmanship-was usually taught first way back when, and studies have shown it's easier for the hand and brain to figure out at early ages. So, we will attempt some and see if that helps or works.)
So, we are almost set to begin "officially". We need a few more things, I want a world map, a pencil sharpener that works-like oh an electric one? and little things like that. And realized we need more pens, and glue sticks...we'll be hitting up the 'back to school/after sales" soon. We rearranged some rooms (still have more to rearrange!) and it's more of a schoolroom/office with a play closet. The closet is about 6x8 deep and holds all their toys(minus the ones in their rooms) and art supplies and a bunch of books. The room itself holds Kevin's large desk, their 2 desks and more books and my craft/yarn armoire.
I'm not going to lie, I'm a bit nervous that it will all go well, since we have to actually report this year. Last year, we did our thing and it was great and there was no pressure. I think it will be fine. I scheduled in breaks around baby time, and the worst that happens is that we take more breaks and end up having a longer year. So, here goes nothing!
There are certain topics we must cover, says NY state and the district. So, those are in the plans for the year. Then, a lot of what Kian wants to cover-Nature studies (bugs, animals, etc.) which also are called for in NYS. There's freedom of what you want to cover and when. As long as I cover 80% of what I said we would, and he shows progress over the year, we're set.
The internet and facebook groups have been a treasure trove of free and cheap materials. So many worksheets online for free. I've gone through a lot of ink in 3 weeks. I also purchased a laminater too so that some things will be able to be used several times, instead of printing them often. Ebay has been my best friend as well. Those homeschoolers looking to get rid of material and make some change, have listed endless books and resources on the site. I have gotten a bunch of stuff for a few bucks. It's great.
We're using library and free, printed worksheets from MacGraw-Hill for grammar/English curriculum. Science-we have a ton of non-fiction/reference books on every subject and animal, along with library and also using Answers In Genesis books about Nature and the planet Earth. Social Studies and geography, I am still working on but am waiting for my final bid on ebay on "Story of the World". SOtW is as it says, story form, for elementary kids, of history from beginning of time until now. I prefer the chronological coverage of history vs one time period, then another, or this person, then that country, etc. And what's best if that you can use the volumes (probably 1 per year) and cycle them, adding more in depth information and projects as the kids get older. So, Karter can jump in when he's ready and they will all get all the information at some point. Math-whatever I find. We have multiple workbooks from kindergarten until 4th grade, on all topics from adding/subtracting, multiply/divide, time, money, measure, etc. Art, Music, Health will be added into relevant unit studies. And yes, Karter has some preschool objectives and curriculum as well. (We discussed preschool for him in the area, but....that was it.)
I submitted my IHIP (intention for homeschool instruction plan-or something similar) with a list of things in each area that we will be covering. True to form, by the time I wrote it and received the OK back, Kian demonstrated to me, that he already knew about 70% of these concepts--especially in Math and Science. Good, then I'm off the hook a bit with a new born baby to take care of and recover from delivering, knowing I can honestly turn in the reports that he knows all this stuff. Then we can focus on other stuff like handwriting--for him will be cursive. (This, because he struggles with printing and being left handed, I did some research, turns out cursive writing-aka penmanship-was usually taught first way back when, and studies have shown it's easier for the hand and brain to figure out at early ages. So, we will attempt some and see if that helps or works.)
So, we are almost set to begin "officially". We need a few more things, I want a world map, a pencil sharpener that works-like oh an electric one? and little things like that. And realized we need more pens, and glue sticks...we'll be hitting up the 'back to school/after sales" soon. We rearranged some rooms (still have more to rearrange!) and it's more of a schoolroom/office with a play closet. The closet is about 6x8 deep and holds all their toys(minus the ones in their rooms) and art supplies and a bunch of books. The room itself holds Kevin's large desk, their 2 desks and more books and my craft/yarn armoire.
I'm not going to lie, I'm a bit nervous that it will all go well, since we have to actually report this year. Last year, we did our thing and it was great and there was no pressure. I think it will be fine. I scheduled in breaks around baby time, and the worst that happens is that we take more breaks and end up having a longer year. So, here goes nothing!
What summer?
I feel like we didn't even get to have our summer. June was very rainy and not fun at all. June and July were filled with appointments for me, and Kian had a few as well. We had one week in July that was 95+ where the boys could spend all day in the pool but otherwise, it was uncomfortable and muggy. August has been cool, except the last couple days-a revived summer attempt. Overall, it just feels like we have not even had a summer to enjoy!
We've tried to sneak in a few summery things in the last couple weeks with the boys. Last week my mom and I attempted to bring the boys camping and meet up with my dad and brother and other siblings. From a couple hours ride, to rain off and on, cool temps, and let's just say...unbalanced and uncoordinated views and ideas with the rest of the campers--followed by a 3 or 4 hour thunder and lightning storm that pushed us out of the tent into the camper that was already full with 3 people and a dog...we canned it, waved the white flag and were back home about 26 hours after we left. Yeah..
To try to redeem that trip, my mom and I spent a long afternoon with the boys on Sodus Bay a few days later. It was hot, sunny, with soft sand everywhere. It was relaxing. Kevin and I took the boys back up the following day as well. Yesterday afternoon, Kevin's client took us out on Irondequoit bay on his boat. Kian and Kevin had fun tubing and falling off. We pulled right up to Bazil's dock for dinner and enjoyed a delicious meal. I would have been out there tubing too if I could. Karter didn't want to, but they enjoyed driving the boat, even if they were a little crazy with it.
And now...now I'm in the middle, well almost the end, of school/lesson preparations. And so next week we will start our "settle in schedule". Where I get the boys back into a better morning routine and have some set things to do before a full fledged schedule. Which, isn't that bad, we'll still be done by lunchtime every day. I've packed schedule tight in the beginning to allow for breaks with the baby coming, etc. We shall see, take it a day at a time.
And to finish off the summer (that barely existed) will be Karter's birthday (and my brother's too). We've been debating taking them on a small trip, somewhere like Enchanted Forest for a night, just to make some special time before school/baby/holidays are upon us and crazy. But, it's also our 10 year anniversary in September and it would have to either be family trip or couple/anniversary trip, not both. So we'll have to decide which one we want more...
We've tried to sneak in a few summery things in the last couple weeks with the boys. Last week my mom and I attempted to bring the boys camping and meet up with my dad and brother and other siblings. From a couple hours ride, to rain off and on, cool temps, and let's just say...unbalanced and uncoordinated views and ideas with the rest of the campers--followed by a 3 or 4 hour thunder and lightning storm that pushed us out of the tent into the camper that was already full with 3 people and a dog...we canned it, waved the white flag and were back home about 26 hours after we left. Yeah..
To try to redeem that trip, my mom and I spent a long afternoon with the boys on Sodus Bay a few days later. It was hot, sunny, with soft sand everywhere. It was relaxing. Kevin and I took the boys back up the following day as well. Yesterday afternoon, Kevin's client took us out on Irondequoit bay on his boat. Kian and Kevin had fun tubing and falling off. We pulled right up to Bazil's dock for dinner and enjoyed a delicious meal. I would have been out there tubing too if I could. Karter didn't want to, but they enjoyed driving the boat, even if they were a little crazy with it.
And now...now I'm in the middle, well almost the end, of school/lesson preparations. And so next week we will start our "settle in schedule". Where I get the boys back into a better morning routine and have some set things to do before a full fledged schedule. Which, isn't that bad, we'll still be done by lunchtime every day. I've packed schedule tight in the beginning to allow for breaks with the baby coming, etc. We shall see, take it a day at a time.
And to finish off the summer (that barely existed) will be Karter's birthday (and my brother's too). We've been debating taking them on a small trip, somewhere like Enchanted Forest for a night, just to make some special time before school/baby/holidays are upon us and crazy. But, it's also our 10 year anniversary in September and it would have to either be family trip or couple/anniversary trip, not both. So we'll have to decide which one we want more...
Goodbye July, already?
Today is the last day of July? Really? This summer has flown by and I feel like we haven't done much. I mean, we have...but it's been a lot of testing and appointments for me. The boys haven't done a lot of fun/kid stuff, unfortunately.
I have signed them up for some activities at the library, but Kian refuses to participate in his age group program. I gave up. Karter's story time has unfortunately been during my appointments the last couple weeks, but we will go tomorrow. The library cancelled the one fishing program they were both excited to do. The other one they opted to stay with Kiara in our pool instead of going.
Every other town I drive through has tons of vacation Bible school signs and programs. Apparently, Palmyra, does not... bummer. Our church will be doing one at the end of the summer, but I had hoped for them to do more.
My appointments and testing are done for the foreseeable future. I cancelled my consult with anesthesia, as deemed unnecessary by hematologist. My OB can try to convince me later if she wishes. The ultrasound came out good last week. The band is still there, but small and doesn't seem to be growing and is not interfering with baby at all. The tech made sure to get lots of pictures of his hands and feet and everything was there and perfectly normal. He was quite the clown while she was trying to get things done. Putting his hands in the way, on his face, holding his leg up to his mouth, hands in mouth, etc. it was fun to watch. Do I ever remember to bring a dvd so they can record it? No!
I wanted to try to take the boys camping or some beaches and parks before summer is out. The super hot week combined with a broken filter on our small pool turned it green and it's now being taken down. There's been more changes around here, Kevin's made some changes with his career/job and it's been nice to have him here a little in the mornings. He's not as stressed and he enjoys not leaving the house at 4:30 am daily. Other than that, I'm trying to get organized for lessons to start up again soon, handing in paperwork to school district and planning, etc. Also, rearranging and organizing the house, as we have windows being installed in the upstairs in September. Karter will be switching bedrooms, but that can't happen until the windows are in. The apartment has been gutted and will be semi-finished after the windows have been replaced as well. We also rearranged and reorganized our "school/play/office" room. Then, there's also baby stuff to get ready. Any sizes and clothes I needed, we were blessed by Kevin's client with 3 huge boxes of fantastic stuff. Now, just a few things like crib sheets and other random stuff that's been worn out over the years.
Hopefully we will be able to do some fun summer stuff before the weather starts getting cool and school gets underway! We could all use a vacation, but, that will have to wait...
I have signed them up for some activities at the library, but Kian refuses to participate in his age group program. I gave up. Karter's story time has unfortunately been during my appointments the last couple weeks, but we will go tomorrow. The library cancelled the one fishing program they were both excited to do. The other one they opted to stay with Kiara in our pool instead of going.
Every other town I drive through has tons of vacation Bible school signs and programs. Apparently, Palmyra, does not... bummer. Our church will be doing one at the end of the summer, but I had hoped for them to do more.
My appointments and testing are done for the foreseeable future. I cancelled my consult with anesthesia, as deemed unnecessary by hematologist. My OB can try to convince me later if she wishes. The ultrasound came out good last week. The band is still there, but small and doesn't seem to be growing and is not interfering with baby at all. The tech made sure to get lots of pictures of his hands and feet and everything was there and perfectly normal. He was quite the clown while she was trying to get things done. Putting his hands in the way, on his face, holding his leg up to his mouth, hands in mouth, etc. it was fun to watch. Do I ever remember to bring a dvd so they can record it? No!
I wanted to try to take the boys camping or some beaches and parks before summer is out. The super hot week combined with a broken filter on our small pool turned it green and it's now being taken down. There's been more changes around here, Kevin's made some changes with his career/job and it's been nice to have him here a little in the mornings. He's not as stressed and he enjoys not leaving the house at 4:30 am daily. Other than that, I'm trying to get organized for lessons to start up again soon, handing in paperwork to school district and planning, etc. Also, rearranging and organizing the house, as we have windows being installed in the upstairs in September. Karter will be switching bedrooms, but that can't happen until the windows are in. The apartment has been gutted and will be semi-finished after the windows have been replaced as well. We also rearranged and reorganized our "school/play/office" room. Then, there's also baby stuff to get ready. Any sizes and clothes I needed, we were blessed by Kevin's client with 3 huge boxes of fantastic stuff. Now, just a few things like crib sheets and other random stuff that's been worn out over the years.
Hopefully we will be able to do some fun summer stuff before the weather starts getting cool and school gets underway! We could all use a vacation, but, that will have to wait...
Oops, I forgot
"Oops, I forgot". That was what the hematologist emailed me back after I asked if he had received the MRI results yet. It had been 5 days/3 business days. He forgot to tell me that everything was completely normal, fine, no issues, negative for anything, etc. etc. etc. Whew. I figured as much. I didn't have much concern.
The actual procedure freaked me out more than anticipation of the results. The spinal part was okay, I had most of my head sticking out the back, and kept my eyes closed most of the time anyways. Then, they got me ready for the brain MRI. The part they're viewing has to be in the middle of the tube. Um, not cool. There was a head cup to rest my head in, okay. They gave me a blanket for my cold toes. They gave me music headphones this time along with the ear protectors. Then just before they pushed me in, they put this helmet thing on my face! AHhh!! no! I tried to remain calm. I closed my eyes as they started pushing me in. She said "oh there's a mirror on the helmet so you can see us." I looked. Big mistake. I see a helmet thing over my face, a teeny tiny mirror in front of my eyes, the gray tube so close and that was it. I tried taking deep breaths and thinking of other things. I chickened out and squeezed the call button. I told them I had to go to the bathroom. They said that a lot of people get freaked out by the brain scans and have to come back or get some light sedation. Not an option for me, either one. I went to the bathroom, came back. Closed my eyes from the beginning while they set me up all over again. I made grocery lists in my head, listened to the music, debated with myself about the singer, prayed, and focused on breathing. I do not want to do that again, ever. Ugh.
But, it's over. The doctors have what they want for their records and for their CYA policies (cover your arse). Except I got a call from some peri-operative group at Strong today, they scheduled me for an appointment to talk to the anesthesiologist, in case I need an epidural. UGH! I called the OB office and was like "listen, the whole point of the spinal MRI was to clear it for an emergency epidural, and it did. So I don't think that there's any point to of all this. I have had too many appointments and confusion over all the care and doctors involved." The nurse said she'd talk to the doctor and get back to me, she thought the doctor had informed me. Um, no, surprise! This is totally getting out of hand. Even the hematologist said, they're making a mountain of a molehill over there. I don't need to be so medically planned and followed, it's birth, which I have done twice already with no issues, chill out please!
The actual procedure freaked me out more than anticipation of the results. The spinal part was okay, I had most of my head sticking out the back, and kept my eyes closed most of the time anyways. Then, they got me ready for the brain MRI. The part they're viewing has to be in the middle of the tube. Um, not cool. There was a head cup to rest my head in, okay. They gave me a blanket for my cold toes. They gave me music headphones this time along with the ear protectors. Then just before they pushed me in, they put this helmet thing on my face! AHhh!! no! I tried to remain calm. I closed my eyes as they started pushing me in. She said "oh there's a mirror on the helmet so you can see us." I looked. Big mistake. I see a helmet thing over my face, a teeny tiny mirror in front of my eyes, the gray tube so close and that was it. I tried taking deep breaths and thinking of other things. I chickened out and squeezed the call button. I told them I had to go to the bathroom. They said that a lot of people get freaked out by the brain scans and have to come back or get some light sedation. Not an option for me, either one. I went to the bathroom, came back. Closed my eyes from the beginning while they set me up all over again. I made grocery lists in my head, listened to the music, debated with myself about the singer, prayed, and focused on breathing. I do not want to do that again, ever. Ugh.
But, it's over. The doctors have what they want for their records and for their CYA policies (cover your arse). Except I got a call from some peri-operative group at Strong today, they scheduled me for an appointment to talk to the anesthesiologist, in case I need an epidural. UGH! I called the OB office and was like "listen, the whole point of the spinal MRI was to clear it for an emergency epidural, and it did. So I don't think that there's any point to of all this. I have had too many appointments and confusion over all the care and doctors involved." The nurse said she'd talk to the doctor and get back to me, she thought the doctor had informed me. Um, no, surprise! This is totally getting out of hand. Even the hematologist said, they're making a mountain of a molehill over there. I don't need to be so medically planned and followed, it's birth, which I have done twice already with no issues, chill out please!
I'm a medical oddity. And I'm over it.
I'm a healthy person, but a medical rarity. It's not that fun. At first, it was interesting. Now, it's just tiring. I was the one in high school who had a weird blockage in my saliva gland under my tongue. Removed that. Then I had a ganglion cyst on my left wrist, and had surgery on that. No one else I knew had those things. I was in a medical program in high school and did find it all very interesting. I even stayed awake during the wrist surgery, but they wouldn't let me watch.
Then years later, I received the Factor VII deficiency diagnosis, although fairly mild. It didn't really cause me any issues besides some slower clotting during my wisdom teeth removal and my monthly cycles. First pregnancy, no issues. Second baby, ultrasound findings that were "uncommon" (I dont' know how "rare" they were) but caused worry. An umbilical cord has 3 vessels in it, Karter only had 2, and a "spot" on his heart. In the end, all was normal and fine.
Few more years later, my dad gets a blood disorder diagnosis. Guess what? It's rare. It's genetic. Guess who gets the diagnosis too? Yep, lil ol' me-in the midst of another pregnancy. And that makes doctors nervous. It makes doctors go overboard in testing and observing. And so I had to have an echo cardiogram and 2 MRIs done. Echo was absolutely normal, no concerns. MRIs were done Wednesday evening and should have results soon. I'm not that worried about them, as I don't have symptoms related to issues in those areas. But, nevertheless, it's wearing.
In the midst of all this, we get a call after our ultrasound on the baby. Something "rare" was seen. At this point, I say "well of course, why not?" It's our "usual" now, right? An amniotic band. Something even I haven't heard of, in all my research, reading, medical scouring, and work in Early Intervention with lots of disorders, delays, disabilities, etc. What is it? In layman's terms--a strand of the amniotic sac is hanging. It could cause nothing, or it could become wrapped around the baby. It's possible it can wrap around a hand, finger or foot, or something. It can cause deformation, retarded growth of that area, and in some cases, amputation. It happens in 1 in 1200 pregnancies. Sigh.
I've been focusing on my own tests that I haven't thought much about it. I am forcing myself not to freak out and become overwhelmed at all that is going on. What good will that do anyways? Nada. I can only do what I can do. Being a mess won't help anyone and there's still laundry to do and kids to feed and play with, etc. Now that my tests are over, I have been thinking of it more the last day or so. We have another ultrasound next week to check things over. I'm also praying and believing that things are going to just be okay. He is a very active little guy, all the time, which I take as a good sign nothing is tangled up. Statistics show about 70% of these disappear on following ultrasounds, either ruptured and absorbed or compressed against the womb by the baby.
So, that's been my June and July. Full of appointments for me, some for the baby, blood work and insurance authorizations, and figuring and scrambling for child care for the boys. So much for a calm July. But, I'm looking at you August! Good thoughts and prayers appreciated. Trying to stay cool and hydrated this hot week, and keep the pool from always turning green!
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Picture catch up: Christmas
Christmas eve
Christmas morning at dad's
sexy kourt
the boys and I made Kiara "Clarice" from Rudolph at Build-a-bear because hers got ruined/lost and was her favorite
It's...another boy
Honestly, didn't see that coming. Not with how different it's been this time around. I even had a dream about a blonde toddler girl. But, 2 days before the ultrasound I had this nagging feeling the tech would say boy. Mmm hmm.
It's interesting looking at the amount of females in both sides of the family for a few generations. Guess we're just "lucky". =) I was/am a little bummed, not at another boy, just being the fact that Kevin's pretty sure he doesn't want more after this, and that could mean no girls in this house ever. We shall see.
I'm a little nervous now at how active this kid is! From 5 am until 11pm when I finally fall asleep, he's non stop moving. Not just moving though, crazy bouncing. In church Sunday, he must have coiled back and punched me as hard as he could, twice. I gasped out loud, it didn't necessarily hurt but was pretty intense. I say punch, because that's where his head and hands were on ultrasound the other day. And his feet tap dance down low all day long. Perhaps he'll be a great night sleeper, something Karter still isn't, and Kian is okay with (minus the waking up at 6am). I can hope, right?
I am really behind on getting pictures on the blog...gotta work on that. But, since the fun finally came out in 2 days, without rain, we're going to hit up the playground for awhile!
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48 hours countdown, and comparing the differences
48 hours until our ultrasound. Several people have asked me if I am excited. I am but I'm slightly afraid to be disappointed or have any reaction other than happy. I'm believing everything is fine with the baby and no concerns will arise there. While we are hoping and leaning towards girl, you never know, and everyone likes to point out the track record we already have set. A baby is a baby, a healthy baby is what is wished for, but everyone also knows I'd like to have a daughter.
Interestingly, I have noted some differences in this pregnancy, from the other two. The first 2 pregnancies were pretty similar, the biggest difference was that I was sicker with Karter (all day vs just morning) than with Kian. I kind of thought that meant a girl that time. This time I was about the same, and threw up the same handful of times I did with both of them. However, my first sign that I might be pregnant was this crazy insomnia and night sweating, in the middle of March, when I normally do not have any insomnia issues, nor sweating like that. Never happened before, and I thought something else was wrong with me!
I'm a belly sleeper and a left side sleeper (since this is what they teach you while pregnant, has to do with the artery to uterus or something, I don't remember) but this entire time, I only want to sleep on my right side. I have not had any heartburn yet. I don't really remember craving specific things with the boys, just wanting a lot of protein (meat, cheese, etc.). But, in addition to that, this time I have been craving olives-daily, and salty things. Obviously I try to limit that and drink lots of water, etc. The drinking, I have never been so thirsty in my life , well except when nursing a new baby. And tired! I'm assuming it's because with #1 I used the "I'm pregnant" excuse or people used it for me, and I didn't do a lot, and I didn't have any other kids to chase after. I was tired with Karter but felt better by second trimester. I feel good, but I am just overall tired and by night, I'm exhausted. There's no time to slow down and relax, I'm still outside and gardening, and cleaning house and laundry and all that regular stuff.
There's so many old wives' tales about gender and symptoms-sick vs not sick; sweet cravings mean a girl, salty mean a boy; if your nose gets bigger it's a girl; on and on. Some friends were trying to get me to do an Intelligender test (over the counter, pee in a cup and it will tell you girl or boy at 11 weeks) but I'm too cheap, it's a $30 test and the testing method and statistics look easy to manipulate. A lot of people swear by the Chinese Gender prediction charts, but there are various versions online and have told me different results for both boys and this time around. It is what it is, the baby's gender is already determined, we just don't know it yet. Soon we all will...if the baby cooperates ;)
Interestingly, I have noted some differences in this pregnancy, from the other two. The first 2 pregnancies were pretty similar, the biggest difference was that I was sicker with Karter (all day vs just morning) than with Kian. I kind of thought that meant a girl that time. This time I was about the same, and threw up the same handful of times I did with both of them. However, my first sign that I might be pregnant was this crazy insomnia and night sweating, in the middle of March, when I normally do not have any insomnia issues, nor sweating like that. Never happened before, and I thought something else was wrong with me!
I'm a belly sleeper and a left side sleeper (since this is what they teach you while pregnant, has to do with the artery to uterus or something, I don't remember) but this entire time, I only want to sleep on my right side. I have not had any heartburn yet. I don't really remember craving specific things with the boys, just wanting a lot of protein (meat, cheese, etc.). But, in addition to that, this time I have been craving olives-daily, and salty things. Obviously I try to limit that and drink lots of water, etc. The drinking, I have never been so thirsty in my life , well except when nursing a new baby. And tired! I'm assuming it's because with #1 I used the "I'm pregnant" excuse or people used it for me, and I didn't do a lot, and I didn't have any other kids to chase after. I was tired with Karter but felt better by second trimester. I feel good, but I am just overall tired and by night, I'm exhausted. There's no time to slow down and relax, I'm still outside and gardening, and cleaning house and laundry and all that regular stuff.
There's so many old wives' tales about gender and symptoms-sick vs not sick; sweet cravings mean a girl, salty mean a boy; if your nose gets bigger it's a girl; on and on. Some friends were trying to get me to do an Intelligender test (over the counter, pee in a cup and it will tell you girl or boy at 11 weeks) but I'm too cheap, it's a $30 test and the testing method and statistics look easy to manipulate. A lot of people swear by the Chinese Gender prediction charts, but there are various versions online and have told me different results for both boys and this time around. It is what it is, the baby's gender is already determined, we just don't know it yet. Soon we all will...if the baby cooperates ;)
A bug's life
After eating lunch Karter found a tiny beetle in the house. He picked it up amd I hear him telling Kian "it's mom got run over by a car outside so I am going to take care of it." They decided it's going to be their pet and put it in a plastic bowl with a strawberry. They added a big craft button for an unknown reason. Then they tell me they're going to "make magic with this bug". No idea what that means! Luckily they just decided it should be an outside pet. It is yet to be determined if it was squished by the strawberry.
Things I won't justify anymore
I didn't realize that I would feel the need to justify myself, or decisions made as a couple/family so often. It's pretty ridiculous. I don't make other people justify things they do, even though a lot of them don't make sense to me. So, here's things I am not going to justify anymore:
1. Size of our family/how many kids we have. I have heard and seen comments that "3 will be crazy/hard" and "why would you want more than 2?" and that I "got my way" with the third. Huh. Please refer to your 5th greade health lessons-it takes 2 willing and active particpants, and trust me, I didn't do this on my own. I know families with 1, 2, 4 and 9 kids. I will ask those with more than 2, especially the 9, which kids they are going to get rid of, because 2 is enough.
2. Pets. Yep, we have pets, cats, dogs, fish, chickens. We have the space in our home and our land for it. Guess what, I only brought home 1 cat, my husband brought home 2. If you don't like the fur and being around animals, then you don't have to come over.
3. Homeschooling. Like other things, not vaccinating, doctor's decisions, etc., Kevin and I discuss these things and come to conclusions together. He might defer to me on a lot of child rearing practices, but that is because he knows I research the heck out of everything and he trusts me. He trusts me to make the right decisions and he trusts me to take care of our kids the best way. Hmm, imagine that. He speaks up when he disagrees or gives his input and he helps show Kian other ways to do math, and on and on.
4. Our diet. God forbid we limit our kids candy, sugar, cake, juice, etc. We know the affects of these things on our kids, we know what the doctors recommend (4 oz of juice or less per day), we know how the body works, we know how and what our kids are allergic, sensitive and intolerant of when it comes to food. "A little won't hurt" may be true, or it might have long lasting affects. If you want to ignore our requests, then by all means, you can have Karter for the night after he's had sugar, dairy and chocolate and has the runs and can't sleep and his reflux comes back. For the record, we all prefer to drink water anyways.
*This also can refer to our "tv diet" and our limitations on tv, video games, etc. Again, you can have Kian after he's had hours of tv/video games and deal with that, mmkay?
*Oh and our car seat choices and positioning, I mean rear-facing so long? Gosh, in my day they didn't even have car seats!
*And oh boy, you let them sleep in your bed sometimes. You'll never break that habit.
5. The way we discipline. We have run the gamut of discipline techniques. Trust us. Some work, some don't. Some might work one month and have no effect the next. Kids change, behaviors change, parents change. There's also a lot of reasoning for behaviors and seeing the child behind the behaviors, and WHY the behavior happens is important, if not more, than just correcting and punishing it.
6. The way Kevin and I discuss things. We talk loud, we talk fast and sometimes snap at each other under pressure. So what? We have a lot more love and fun times and guess what, it's not any one's business anyways. If you and your spouse or family don't discuss emotions, or just retreat when stressed or angry, that's your right, just as it's our right to interact with each other the way we want.
There's probably more, but this list is making me exhausted and frustrated. As far as I know, as far as decision-making goes for our family, it is between Kevin and I. If we reach out and ask questions or advice, then stick to the topic at hand. I know people love to give unsolicited advice, and since becoming a parent, I've tried to reign in my own suggestions to others, lest they feel offended/put down or cornered, unless asked. There is plenty of discussing that goes on in our home, and it's not an open book, no one needs to know the hows and whys of all we do. I shouldn't have to even put this out there, but this is the last time. I respect those with 1 child or 9. If you feel it's best to spank or not, that's your choice. If you feel it's okay to give a toddler pepsi, that's your decision. I might not agree, and I'm open to questions about things, but not put downs or justifying how we live our lives in our home. Gosh, and I didn't even get into controversial things like politics and religion! ;)
*if you feel you want to file this under "crazy pregnant lady who had a painful nasal cauterization the other day rantings' , go ahead. but, it is what it is. I tell myself over and over, what my grandma told me "what other people say about you is none of your business." Then try to go on with my day.
1. Size of our family/how many kids we have. I have heard and seen comments that "3 will be crazy/hard" and "why would you want more than 2?" and that I "got my way" with the third. Huh. Please refer to your 5th greade health lessons-it takes 2 willing and active particpants, and trust me, I didn't do this on my own. I know families with 1, 2, 4 and 9 kids. I will ask those with more than 2, especially the 9, which kids they are going to get rid of, because 2 is enough.
2. Pets. Yep, we have pets, cats, dogs, fish, chickens. We have the space in our home and our land for it. Guess what, I only brought home 1 cat, my husband brought home 2. If you don't like the fur and being around animals, then you don't have to come over.
3. Homeschooling. Like other things, not vaccinating, doctor's decisions, etc., Kevin and I discuss these things and come to conclusions together. He might defer to me on a lot of child rearing practices, but that is because he knows I research the heck out of everything and he trusts me. He trusts me to make the right decisions and he trusts me to take care of our kids the best way. Hmm, imagine that. He speaks up when he disagrees or gives his input and he helps show Kian other ways to do math, and on and on.
4. Our diet. God forbid we limit our kids candy, sugar, cake, juice, etc. We know the affects of these things on our kids, we know what the doctors recommend (4 oz of juice or less per day), we know how the body works, we know how and what our kids are allergic, sensitive and intolerant of when it comes to food. "A little won't hurt" may be true, or it might have long lasting affects. If you want to ignore our requests, then by all means, you can have Karter for the night after he's had sugar, dairy and chocolate and has the runs and can't sleep and his reflux comes back. For the record, we all prefer to drink water anyways.
*This also can refer to our "tv diet" and our limitations on tv, video games, etc. Again, you can have Kian after he's had hours of tv/video games and deal with that, mmkay?
*Oh and our car seat choices and positioning, I mean rear-facing so long? Gosh, in my day they didn't even have car seats!
*And oh boy, you let them sleep in your bed sometimes. You'll never break that habit.
5. The way we discipline. We have run the gamut of discipline techniques. Trust us. Some work, some don't. Some might work one month and have no effect the next. Kids change, behaviors change, parents change. There's also a lot of reasoning for behaviors and seeing the child behind the behaviors, and WHY the behavior happens is important, if not more, than just correcting and punishing it.
6. The way Kevin and I discuss things. We talk loud, we talk fast and sometimes snap at each other under pressure. So what? We have a lot more love and fun times and guess what, it's not any one's business anyways. If you and your spouse or family don't discuss emotions, or just retreat when stressed or angry, that's your right, just as it's our right to interact with each other the way we want.
There's probably more, but this list is making me exhausted and frustrated. As far as I know, as far as decision-making goes for our family, it is between Kevin and I. If we reach out and ask questions or advice, then stick to the topic at hand. I know people love to give unsolicited advice, and since becoming a parent, I've tried to reign in my own suggestions to others, lest they feel offended/put down or cornered, unless asked. There is plenty of discussing that goes on in our home, and it's not an open book, no one needs to know the hows and whys of all we do. I shouldn't have to even put this out there, but this is the last time. I respect those with 1 child or 9. If you feel it's best to spank or not, that's your choice. If you feel it's okay to give a toddler pepsi, that's your decision. I might not agree, and I'm open to questions about things, but not put downs or justifying how we live our lives in our home. Gosh, and I didn't even get into controversial things like politics and religion! ;)
*if you feel you want to file this under "crazy pregnant lady who had a painful nasal cauterization the other day rantings' , go ahead. but, it is what it is. I tell myself over and over, what my grandma told me "what other people say about you is none of your business." Then try to go on with my day.
Never a dull moment, never: home, pregnancy, life.
Every time we think things are settling down...nope. There's always so much going on, to think that life "settles down" is a falsehood that no one should believe. I've given up on things being "calm"...until maybe I'm 70 or something.
We settled into our new routine at the new house and then I was knocked flat with "morning" sickness for 6 or so weeks. Bye bye routine. Hello randomness and squeezing in whatever we could, whenever we could. Hello behaviors from boys because they had no routine and knew I couldn't do much about it. That was fun...not. Now we're getting back in to our routines and it's been opposed at every turn by them. But, then again Kian always has some behavioral issues right before his next birthday. And I was given some reading on "the 6 year change", which totally explains Kian right now. Basically, a theory from child developmental experts and psychologists, that going from little kid to big kid throws children a curveball around this age. That there's a big jump in brain development as they're now more academically minded, and trying to emotionally figure out feelings, body, behaviors, etc. They vacillate between snuggly kids and independence and shun toys for more "grown up" things, etc. Totally him right now. So, that's fun.
There's also been a slew of medical issues that keep arising. Nothing extremely major, but just enough to keep me stressed out. Once the morning sickness subsided, the hernia popped back out. It came about in the middle of Karter's pregnancy. It's not a huge deal, when I'm not pregnant, it goes back in and doesn't bother me. When pregnant tho, it sticks out and can be bothersome. It hurts off and on, and I think because the growing is pushing it in weird ways, that I didn't experience with Karter, because I was already bigger when it came about. If that makes sense.
Some other minor typical pregnancy issues, that I won't bother mentioning here, just annoyances.
Then....this has been the fun one--hear that sarcasm?--Blood disorders. Yay. So, I knew I had a Factor VII deficiency from before. It isn't a huge deal, my numbers aren't that bad, it just means it takes a little longer for my blood to clot usually. Nosebleeds have been bad this time, I get them anyways, but at least 3 times a day now. It could also be allergy related along with pregnancy, BUT...then my dad had to go and add more fun stuff in the mix ;) He's been diagnosed with Osler Weber syndrome also known as Hereditary Hemorrhagic Telangiectasia (HHT) (info here: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hereditary_hemorrhagic_telangiectasia ) Essentially, a disorder that causes abnormal artery/vein formation, lots of nosebleeds, red spots on teh skin, mouth, etc. and these abnormal veins (AVMs) can be found in the brain, lung, etc. which can pose serious issues if they being to bleed.
I have always had the nosebleed problem, just not as severe, so figured I was in the clear. But, being pregnant they wanted me tested too. The hematologist showed me I have some of the spots too (telangiectasias) on my tongue, lip and hands. So I've had a few blood draws, one of which was so horrible that today 2 weeks later, I still have bruising and soreness, she was either a vampire or new and I was her first attempt ever! We're waiting on the final results. I have to see an ENT to check into the nosebleeds and nasal passages for these AVMs. The concern is that if there are AVMs in the lungs, it can pose a problem in pregnancy (or anytime) and they wanted to know about it. But, on the other hand, I've had 2 successful pregnancies and deliveries, so they're not super worried. Still stressful.
My June calendar is nuts, there's only 2 days that are completely empty. There's weddings, baby showers, graduation parties, a lot of birthdays on Kevin's side, Kian's birthday and a super soaker party we 'won' from Houseparty.com, the boys are excited. And, the appointments, oh the appointments. I also have Kian scheduled for an eye exam. He's probably fine, but seeing that Kevin and I both needed glasses around 8, I want to just get a baseline. And sometimes he can't see things farther away, that we all can see, like the bunny in the yard. He will also be seeing an orthopedic specialist. I took him when he was 2, for very flat feet and pronated ankles. At that time they told us to let him go barefoot a lot (check) and get good sneakers for when he's wearing shoes. We did, but in the summer it's bare feet or crocs--better than flip flops right? But, it's not improved and worse. His ankles pronate so much that sometimes it appears he almost walks on them, and they stick out, towards each other, with extremely flat feet still. Arches are supposed to develop by age 6, well they haven't. Along with me spending hours on the phone with doctors and looking up numbers, printing and filling out lots of paperwork, it's no wonder our routine is still not in place.
I had switched doctors when we moved out here and saw her for my first prenatal. But, I found out some things that I wasn't comfortable with, that she does, and along with the concerns of blood disorders, etc. I have been looking for another one. Not easy, we're not nearby the big hospitals anymore and I am picky about which one I want. After making several calls and some tentative appointments, i gave up and decided to go back to my previous OB, that delivered the boys. She has an office closer to us and still with Strong. She's familiar with me and the blood issues, and other doctors I called were father away for visits and another hospital, etc. Taking out the stress of finding a new doctor and being able to focus on the other issues, and her knowing my previous history and blood concerns, will make it easier. I didn't always like her ideas or suggestions, but the 3rd time around, I think I'm able to say what I want and need just fine now.
And, this long-winded entry is because I was woken up when Kevin left for work at 4:45am, and dealt with a nosebleed for an hour, with both boys in my bed. I gave up trying to sleep at 6am. Another time I"ll post fun stuff, like the zoo pictures and such. Maybe once June is over....I don't think I've ever looked so forward to July in my life.
We settled into our new routine at the new house and then I was knocked flat with "morning" sickness for 6 or so weeks. Bye bye routine. Hello randomness and squeezing in whatever we could, whenever we could. Hello behaviors from boys because they had no routine and knew I couldn't do much about it. That was fun...not. Now we're getting back in to our routines and it's been opposed at every turn by them. But, then again Kian always has some behavioral issues right before his next birthday. And I was given some reading on "the 6 year change", which totally explains Kian right now. Basically, a theory from child developmental experts and psychologists, that going from little kid to big kid throws children a curveball around this age. That there's a big jump in brain development as they're now more academically minded, and trying to emotionally figure out feelings, body, behaviors, etc. They vacillate between snuggly kids and independence and shun toys for more "grown up" things, etc. Totally him right now. So, that's fun.
There's also been a slew of medical issues that keep arising. Nothing extremely major, but just enough to keep me stressed out. Once the morning sickness subsided, the hernia popped back out. It came about in the middle of Karter's pregnancy. It's not a huge deal, when I'm not pregnant, it goes back in and doesn't bother me. When pregnant tho, it sticks out and can be bothersome. It hurts off and on, and I think because the growing is pushing it in weird ways, that I didn't experience with Karter, because I was already bigger when it came about. If that makes sense.
Some other minor typical pregnancy issues, that I won't bother mentioning here, just annoyances.
Then....this has been the fun one--hear that sarcasm?--Blood disorders. Yay. So, I knew I had a Factor VII deficiency from before. It isn't a huge deal, my numbers aren't that bad, it just means it takes a little longer for my blood to clot usually. Nosebleeds have been bad this time, I get them anyways, but at least 3 times a day now. It could also be allergy related along with pregnancy, BUT...then my dad had to go and add more fun stuff in the mix ;) He's been diagnosed with Osler Weber syndrome also known as Hereditary Hemorrhagic Telangiectasia (HHT) (info here: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hereditary_hemorrhagic_telangiectasia ) Essentially, a disorder that causes abnormal artery/vein formation, lots of nosebleeds, red spots on teh skin, mouth, etc. and these abnormal veins (AVMs) can be found in the brain, lung, etc. which can pose serious issues if they being to bleed.
I have always had the nosebleed problem, just not as severe, so figured I was in the clear. But, being pregnant they wanted me tested too. The hematologist showed me I have some of the spots too (telangiectasias) on my tongue, lip and hands. So I've had a few blood draws, one of which was so horrible that today 2 weeks later, I still have bruising and soreness, she was either a vampire or new and I was her first attempt ever! We're waiting on the final results. I have to see an ENT to check into the nosebleeds and nasal passages for these AVMs. The concern is that if there are AVMs in the lungs, it can pose a problem in pregnancy (or anytime) and they wanted to know about it. But, on the other hand, I've had 2 successful pregnancies and deliveries, so they're not super worried. Still stressful.
My June calendar is nuts, there's only 2 days that are completely empty. There's weddings, baby showers, graduation parties, a lot of birthdays on Kevin's side, Kian's birthday and a super soaker party we 'won' from Houseparty.com, the boys are excited. And, the appointments, oh the appointments. I also have Kian scheduled for an eye exam. He's probably fine, but seeing that Kevin and I both needed glasses around 8, I want to just get a baseline. And sometimes he can't see things farther away, that we all can see, like the bunny in the yard. He will also be seeing an orthopedic specialist. I took him when he was 2, for very flat feet and pronated ankles. At that time they told us to let him go barefoot a lot (check) and get good sneakers for when he's wearing shoes. We did, but in the summer it's bare feet or crocs--better than flip flops right? But, it's not improved and worse. His ankles pronate so much that sometimes it appears he almost walks on them, and they stick out, towards each other, with extremely flat feet still. Arches are supposed to develop by age 6, well they haven't. Along with me spending hours on the phone with doctors and looking up numbers, printing and filling out lots of paperwork, it's no wonder our routine is still not in place.
I had switched doctors when we moved out here and saw her for my first prenatal. But, I found out some things that I wasn't comfortable with, that she does, and along with the concerns of blood disorders, etc. I have been looking for another one. Not easy, we're not nearby the big hospitals anymore and I am picky about which one I want. After making several calls and some tentative appointments, i gave up and decided to go back to my previous OB, that delivered the boys. She has an office closer to us and still with Strong. She's familiar with me and the blood issues, and other doctors I called were father away for visits and another hospital, etc. Taking out the stress of finding a new doctor and being able to focus on the other issues, and her knowing my previous history and blood concerns, will make it easier. I didn't always like her ideas or suggestions, but the 3rd time around, I think I'm able to say what I want and need just fine now.
And, this long-winded entry is because I was woken up when Kevin left for work at 4:45am, and dealt with a nosebleed for an hour, with both boys in my bed. I gave up trying to sleep at 6am. Another time I"ll post fun stuff, like the zoo pictures and such. Maybe once June is over....I don't think I've ever looked so forward to July in my life.
Karter...I have no words...
This boy, he's a trip. But he's a bit weird too. Three and a half, caught between the pull of being mama's baby and being a big boy. Still has sleep issues at times. Still comes in our bed in the middle of the night, at least a few times a week.
The other night he was up (after falling asleep in the car at 5pm) with us, and Kevin and I were talking about him going to bed and telling Karter he needed to get to sleep. I said something else to Kevin and Karter says to me "that's what you think". Oy vey.
He also told us the baby's name will be "Window". And "window fire". Ok then.
But, that's not the weirdest thing. We have ants. Yeah, that time of year. No matter how much I wipe counters and floors, they appear, a few at a time each week. I have no idea why or where this came from, but Karter picks one up. And...he EATS it!!! ??? What the?? He then proceeded to eat 2 more. He's a freak. Disgusting. His reasoning? "I ate them so I could tell you just kidding I didn't, but then I really did." Um, okay, weirdo. I guess luckily they were the tiny ones and he said he just swallowed them. All I know is that my kids have immune systems made of steel and iron due to these types of antics. Eating mud, putting rocks in their mouths, eating bugs...Sigh.
The other night he was up (after falling asleep in the car at 5pm) with us, and Kevin and I were talking about him going to bed and telling Karter he needed to get to sleep. I said something else to Kevin and Karter says to me "that's what you think". Oy vey.
He also told us the baby's name will be "Window". And "window fire". Ok then.
But, that's not the weirdest thing. We have ants. Yeah, that time of year. No matter how much I wipe counters and floors, they appear, a few at a time each week. I have no idea why or where this came from, but Karter picks one up. And...he EATS it!!! ??? What the?? He then proceeded to eat 2 more. He's a freak. Disgusting. His reasoning? "I ate them so I could tell you just kidding I didn't, but then I really did." Um, okay, weirdo. I guess luckily they were the tiny ones and he said he just swallowed them. All I know is that my kids have immune systems made of steel and iron due to these types of antics. Eating mud, putting rocks in their mouths, eating bugs...Sigh.
Poor forgotten blog in a busy season
Poor, forgotten blog. Well, it wasn't forgotten, just the last thing on my list. A lot has been happening in the last couple months. I don't even remember the last time I blogged, so bear with me.
First, we found out #3 will be joining us in November, around thanksgiving time. I'll have to find the pictures of how Karter and I told Kevin, the day before St. Patrick's day.
Second, there was a whole month of morning/all days sickness, that kind of wiped out everything...April was a blur of throwing up, trying not to throw up, gagging at everything, and laying low. Not my finer moments.
In the midst of that, I decided to have a 31 gifts (bags and purses) party in April. That was a bit rough cleaning the house for that one. Luckily, Kevin has been very helpful. When raw meat made me sick, he cooked it. He emptied cat litter boxes. He helped clean up Karter in the middle of the night after throwing up, knowing it was making me almost puke myself. Just picking up the slack whenI couldn't, and not complaining or noticing when the house was a disaster because I just couldn't get off the couch. For some reason, this pregnancy has been more intense, not as horribly sick as with Karter, just everything more intense. I smell things much more strongly. My gag reflex is so sensitive, coughing triggered vomiting a few times. The fatigue is more than I remember. I always said I wanted 4 kids...but I told Kevin I won't ask for more after this one. Unless it comes without a pregnancy.
We've been working on the house, and yard. There was absolutely no landscaping done here, so a lot is from scratch. There was one bed that was long overgrown and Kevin dug out and is now filling in with lots of plants. Lots of plants from his parents' house, they dug up boxes of them when they moved out a few weeks ago. And our vegetable garden in in process, some things are planted, others are waiting to go in. Thanks to my dad for tilling it all up. Hopefully the rabbits leave it alone!
Recently, Kevin's aunt and my dad had stays at the hospital (his aunt's still there) and we're keeping tabs on them. My sister also found her own apartment this past week. We all had been discussing changes, especially when the baby arrives in the fall, and she's got new things on in her life. She was lucky to find a place for a great price, and no issues with dogs. The boys didn't want her to move out, but haven't mentioned it yet, but it's only been a few days. Kevin's parents bought a new house, away from the noisy college after 30+ years, and the boys enjoyed visiting it, and that it backs up to Black Creek Park.
We're always busy with lessons and library and groups. Kian just finished up a group at the YMCA for homeschoolers that met once a week for one hour of gym, an hour of art and an hour of music, then free swim for 1.5 hours for the whole family. We're looking into the fall, as Kian wants to continue at home and it's going well.
Um...I think that's the going ons for the past few months. WE seem to have a busy May and June coming up. Showers, weddings, birthdays, etc. That will make the summer go faster I guess.
There you have it...all caught up..I think.
First, we found out #3 will be joining us in November, around thanksgiving time. I'll have to find the pictures of how Karter and I told Kevin, the day before St. Patrick's day.
Second, there was a whole month of morning/all days sickness, that kind of wiped out everything...April was a blur of throwing up, trying not to throw up, gagging at everything, and laying low. Not my finer moments.
In the midst of that, I decided to have a 31 gifts (bags and purses) party in April. That was a bit rough cleaning the house for that one. Luckily, Kevin has been very helpful. When raw meat made me sick, he cooked it. He emptied cat litter boxes. He helped clean up Karter in the middle of the night after throwing up, knowing it was making me almost puke myself. Just picking up the slack whenI couldn't, and not complaining or noticing when the house was a disaster because I just couldn't get off the couch. For some reason, this pregnancy has been more intense, not as horribly sick as with Karter, just everything more intense. I smell things much more strongly. My gag reflex is so sensitive, coughing triggered vomiting a few times. The fatigue is more than I remember. I always said I wanted 4 kids...but I told Kevin I won't ask for more after this one. Unless it comes without a pregnancy.
We've been working on the house, and yard. There was absolutely no landscaping done here, so a lot is from scratch. There was one bed that was long overgrown and Kevin dug out and is now filling in with lots of plants. Lots of plants from his parents' house, they dug up boxes of them when they moved out a few weeks ago. And our vegetable garden in in process, some things are planted, others are waiting to go in. Thanks to my dad for tilling it all up. Hopefully the rabbits leave it alone!
Recently, Kevin's aunt and my dad had stays at the hospital (his aunt's still there) and we're keeping tabs on them. My sister also found her own apartment this past week. We all had been discussing changes, especially when the baby arrives in the fall, and she's got new things on in her life. She was lucky to find a place for a great price, and no issues with dogs. The boys didn't want her to move out, but haven't mentioned it yet, but it's only been a few days. Kevin's parents bought a new house, away from the noisy college after 30+ years, and the boys enjoyed visiting it, and that it backs up to Black Creek Park.
We're always busy with lessons and library and groups. Kian just finished up a group at the YMCA for homeschoolers that met once a week for one hour of gym, an hour of art and an hour of music, then free swim for 1.5 hours for the whole family. We're looking into the fall, as Kian wants to continue at home and it's going well.
Um...I think that's the going ons for the past few months. WE seem to have a busy May and June coming up. Showers, weddings, birthdays, etc. That will make the summer go faster I guess.
There you have it...all caught up..I think.
Kian and Karter: on babies and marriage
At breakfast this morning Kian informed me we will be having twin girls in the future, followed by another boy that will be born on his birthday. I informed him: good luck, almost guarantee that won't happen.
Karter chimed in, stated that he will have "8 kids, no girls, only boys". I told him to have fun with that and he needed to find a good wife who will have 8 kids, especially 8 boys with him. He said he will have the kids and live with daddy. Oh no, you need a wife and your own house.
"I don't know how to find a wife" he says. I told him that when he's grown up he will find a girl he likes so much he can marry her and buy a house and have his 8 kids. Kian adds "well first you have to get a job, and maybe live in an apartment or at home until you have money for your house with your wife." True.
"Yeah and then you and daddy can babysit all my 8 kids" Karter says. um, good luck with that...we may be on some vacations...
Karter chimed in, stated that he will have "8 kids, no girls, only boys". I told him to have fun with that and he needed to find a good wife who will have 8 kids, especially 8 boys with him. He said he will have the kids and live with daddy. Oh no, you need a wife and your own house.
"I don't know how to find a wife" he says. I told him that when he's grown up he will find a girl he likes so much he can marry her and buy a house and have his 8 kids. Kian adds "well first you have to get a job, and maybe live in an apartment or at home until you have money for your house with your wife." True.
"Yeah and then you and daddy can babysit all my 8 kids" Karter says. um, good luck with that...we may be on some vacations...
You drink what?
If you opened our fridge you would find plenty of foods to make large tossed salads. There's a drawer full of fruits. Some containers of leftovers grace the second shelf. Probably more condiments than we need or use fill the door. Natural eggs from our chickens and organic yogurt are stacked on the left side. What's missing is obvious only to visitors and company that comes to our home. They're thirsty and would like a beverage, open the fridge and....huh?
Pop? Never. Juice? Half of a half gallon of OJ left. Milk? Coconut. Anything else? Tea or coffee, yes, but you will have to wait for that to heat up. No Lipton lemonades or Juicy Juice or Hi-C or Sunny D. No Pepsi, Coke, Sprite or Barq's. The milk, it's for cereal, smoothies or baking. We don't drink glasses of it. Juice is a couple ounces with breakfast and mainly OJ, pulp free of course. You may sometimes find a few organic orange juice boxes, but that's only because I was tired of Kevin pouring OJ from the big container and taking an open cup of it in his truck every morning.
What DO we drink? Water. Water? Yep. From the tap, or if you prefer in the fridge. With a wedge or slice of lemon, or if you're Kian-sometimes a slice of lime. That's all? That's mostly it. Well, smoothies are drinks too I suppose. They're more of a drink/snack combination in this house.
Why? Well, because our bodies don't really need anything else. I've done enough research to know that getting calcium from foods is better than drinking cow's milk fortified with it. From the beginning, I always gave the boys water in sippy cups with meals or in between nursing, as infants. They like it, they're used to it. I love water, has to have lemon in it though, which is a cleansing agent as well, a bonus for me. Sure if we are at a party or picnic or somewhere, we will have other drinks. I'm not a drink Nazi...much. Okay, a little. Only 100% juice and usually we all prefer it to be watered down, we're not used to concentrated sweetness of bottled and boxed drinks. Eating an apple or pear or grapes is better for you than drinking just the juice of that fruit. And when the boys and I choose drinks at restaurants that is not water, it's usually lemonade, sometimes chocolate milk-their choices, just no caffeine or pop.
Sure, lots of people think we are deprived, or I deprive my kids. Or most people are shocked my kids eat as healthy as they do and how much they love water and ask for it. Sometimes Kian tells me that when he grows up he will go to Burger King every week. I told him that if he decides to do that, it's his choice and he'll have to deal with the consequences of what it does to his body but that my job is to teach good, healthy choices and while he was in our house we have the job of making sure he grows well, etc. That satisfied him.
A bonus of drinking lots of water is that it helps flush the body of extra salts and such. I noticed when I upped my water intake, the bloating also was going down. It seems counter intuitive that if you're body is holding on to water weight, to drink MORE, but that's exactly what it needs. I also found that hydrating my body first thing in the morning, before even eating (I have a cup of tea as soon as I wake up) has helped me wake up, not eat as much and get a start on the day.
As for the smoothies: Green. Aka spinach. Yep. You wouldn't know it , if it wasn't for the color. Typically what I do is: (approximate, I don't really measure)
Toss 1 banana, 1 cup frozen leaf spinach, 2 handfuls--about 2 cups of frozen fruit and 3/4-1 cup coconut milk in the blender and puree until smooth. I like my smoothies a bit thicker though, adding more liquid obviously thins them out.
I alternate with the frozen fruit being only strawberries, then the next day being mango/pineapple/peach, etc.
Some days, when Kevin wants one, I use organic yogurt (1 container) and decrease the milk.
Substitute herbal tea or any juice for the coconut milk.
Adding an avocado instead of yogurt gives you the "good fats" and lots of other health benefits. It also makes it very creamy.
Blueberry, banana and avocado, with spinach, was one of the best ones I've ever made.
Trick is that the banana hides all the spinach taste, if you notice it or prefer to not notice it. I usually add more spinach because I don't mind, even like, the taste.
Other ones to try: cantaloupe, cucumber, pear, basically whatever you think sounds good, throw it in and blend it up. This tends to be my breakfast about an hour after I drink my cup of tea.
So, if you stop over, be forewarned, I will offer you a smoothie, and a drink, but be prepared for lots of H2O!
Pop? Never. Juice? Half of a half gallon of OJ left. Milk? Coconut. Anything else? Tea or coffee, yes, but you will have to wait for that to heat up. No Lipton lemonades or Juicy Juice or Hi-C or Sunny D. No Pepsi, Coke, Sprite or Barq's. The milk, it's for cereal, smoothies or baking. We don't drink glasses of it. Juice is a couple ounces with breakfast and mainly OJ, pulp free of course. You may sometimes find a few organic orange juice boxes, but that's only because I was tired of Kevin pouring OJ from the big container and taking an open cup of it in his truck every morning.
What DO we drink? Water. Water? Yep. From the tap, or if you prefer in the fridge. With a wedge or slice of lemon, or if you're Kian-sometimes a slice of lime. That's all? That's mostly it. Well, smoothies are drinks too I suppose. They're more of a drink/snack combination in this house.
Why? Well, because our bodies don't really need anything else. I've done enough research to know that getting calcium from foods is better than drinking cow's milk fortified with it. From the beginning, I always gave the boys water in sippy cups with meals or in between nursing, as infants. They like it, they're used to it. I love water, has to have lemon in it though, which is a cleansing agent as well, a bonus for me. Sure if we are at a party or picnic or somewhere, we will have other drinks. I'm not a drink Nazi...much. Okay, a little. Only 100% juice and usually we all prefer it to be watered down, we're not used to concentrated sweetness of bottled and boxed drinks. Eating an apple or pear or grapes is better for you than drinking just the juice of that fruit. And when the boys and I choose drinks at restaurants that is not water, it's usually lemonade, sometimes chocolate milk-their choices, just no caffeine or pop.
Sure, lots of people think we are deprived, or I deprive my kids. Or most people are shocked my kids eat as healthy as they do and how much they love water and ask for it. Sometimes Kian tells me that when he grows up he will go to Burger King every week. I told him that if he decides to do that, it's his choice and he'll have to deal with the consequences of what it does to his body but that my job is to teach good, healthy choices and while he was in our house we have the job of making sure he grows well, etc. That satisfied him.
A bonus of drinking lots of water is that it helps flush the body of extra salts and such. I noticed when I upped my water intake, the bloating also was going down. It seems counter intuitive that if you're body is holding on to water weight, to drink MORE, but that's exactly what it needs. I also found that hydrating my body first thing in the morning, before even eating (I have a cup of tea as soon as I wake up) has helped me wake up, not eat as much and get a start on the day.
As for the smoothies: Green. Aka spinach. Yep. You wouldn't know it , if it wasn't for the color. Typically what I do is: (approximate, I don't really measure)
Toss 1 banana, 1 cup frozen leaf spinach, 2 handfuls--about 2 cups of frozen fruit and 3/4-1 cup coconut milk in the blender and puree until smooth. I like my smoothies a bit thicker though, adding more liquid obviously thins them out.
I alternate with the frozen fruit being only strawberries, then the next day being mango/pineapple/peach, etc.
Some days, when Kevin wants one, I use organic yogurt (1 container) and decrease the milk.
Substitute herbal tea or any juice for the coconut milk.
Adding an avocado instead of yogurt gives you the "good fats" and lots of other health benefits. It also makes it very creamy.
Blueberry, banana and avocado, with spinach, was one of the best ones I've ever made.
Trick is that the banana hides all the spinach taste, if you notice it or prefer to not notice it. I usually add more spinach because I don't mind, even like, the taste.
Other ones to try: cantaloupe, cucumber, pear, basically whatever you think sounds good, throw it in and blend it up. This tends to be my breakfast about an hour after I drink my cup of tea.
So, if you stop over, be forewarned, I will offer you a smoothie, and a drink, but be prepared for lots of H2O!
On the fitness forefront: diet and exercise
Along with the new year, new house, and other changes, I decided "why not throw in one more thing on my to do list, and add exercise and diet regimens as well?" Forging ahead in this area, along with all else, has meant some things have been left behind and that needs to be fixed as well. Mostly, the "in real life" contact with friends and family, socialization for me has been seriously lacking. It's on my list too. But, being a better person, wife, mom and friend by feeling better and eating better will benefit everyone.
Really, I just got tired of feeling run-down, tired after sleeping well, craving carbs and sugar, and continually being bloated and having skin problems. Packing and moving around the holidays was rough. We ate a lot of pizza, Christmas cookies, easy meals, prepared/pre-packaged stuff and we were all feeling it, especially me. Nothing seemed to be making my gut happy or the bloating go away. I knew a diet intervention was the only thing that would help, and exercise, which had been thrown by the wayside, had to come back.
I first decided to commit myself to 30 days of exercise. 30 days, 30 minutes. That was it. Cardio (treadmill and/or elliptical) and 30 sit ups and 30 bicep curls with weights. That's all. I purposely started with small goals. Before I had Kevin make up plans for me, or I had this large goal of working every muscle and doing a billion exercises. I'd fail because time wasn't my friend. There were children to feed, clothe, educate, play with, dinner to make, animals to take care of, on and on.
But, I figured if I can do it for 30 days, it will become a habit and stick. And it has! I missed a couple days when I wasn't feeling well, but every single other day I make sure I get something in. Some days are short, some days I have longer periods to exercise or do multiple exercises (ie outside trail walking, treadmill, yoga, etc.). I feel so much better when I am active and it really does a body good. I notice I am getting better at running longer jags, and not breathing as hard, finding some muscle under that "mommy layer".
The other part of it was to clean up our diet. I already knew that going dairy free for a full year while nursing Karter had amazing affects on me. My skin was clearer, my pregnancy weight dropped off and I felt good, not stomach issues, when I wasn't partaking in dairy. Lately though, I had been noticing issues when I had carbs and gluten, especially breads and pastas. I went a week of absolutely no gluten or carbs and a serving or two of dairy. The bloating went down. Stomach issues went away. I increased the fruit and veggies we are all eating in this house, especially fresh ones (frozen is about as good as fresh). I lost 4 pounds in a month. Losing weight wasn't even my goal. Feeling better and toning up to be in better shape, being healthier is my goal. If weight loss is a byproduct, then even better.
Some of the diet changes I/we are making are having less meat, increasing beans and other proteins, less carbs (pastas, breads, cookies) and especially getting rid of processed foods. I started with smoothies. Smoothies for breakfast, lunch, snacks, whenever. And green. Tossing in a handful of spinach to any fruit smoothie gives you extra veggies, calcium, vitamins, etc.and you don't even taste it. Even Kevin and the boys like them. Then I stopped buying cookies, crackers, and other empty calorie snacks and foods. Gasp. We don't just eat lettuce. The boys and I have fun making our own granola bars. We eat nuts and dried fruits (trail mix) instead of tossing them crackers for snacks. They love "ants on a log" (celery filled with peanut butter and topped with raisins). We make healthier, gluten and flour free brownies that are still delicious and good for you. Some nights we have meatless meals. Other nights, I just cut back on how much meat we're eating and expand our veggie dishes.
I had been doing some research online (big surprise right?) and found Paleo Diets. I like the concept a lot, basically eating only what you grow or kill. I joked with Kevin that I might also go vegan, that caused a ruckus in the house. I was only half joking. But, a lot of things have been changing with our diets and even Kevin is more aware because he's been having a lot of migraines in the last couple months and we're noticing how certain foods are affecting him. Not everyone agrees with the meals I make and recipes I try, but the boys are pretty open to a lot, which is nice. They at least enjoyed my lentil patties, even though I won't be making them again.
Eating right and exercising, feeling better, will not only benefit me but my family as well. It's no secret I want more kids, and I'm looking at myself at almost 32 and thinking, I need to be healthy and in shape for family, future pregnancies, for getting older, for just about everything really. I don't want to tell my boys I'm too tired. I don't want to battle weight, and while it's not about that, because I don't want to make it an issue with self image and such, I'm fine with how I look, but to just keep watch of things. And now, in doing this for over a month now, it truly has become part of my lifestyle. I may sit in pajamas until after lunch, after school is done and I can workout, or get up early, but whatever works, it gets done and I want to do it. I'm feeling better, feeding my body better things and keeping it happier which in turn makes me happier.
Really, I just got tired of feeling run-down, tired after sleeping well, craving carbs and sugar, and continually being bloated and having skin problems. Packing and moving around the holidays was rough. We ate a lot of pizza, Christmas cookies, easy meals, prepared/pre-packaged stuff and we were all feeling it, especially me. Nothing seemed to be making my gut happy or the bloating go away. I knew a diet intervention was the only thing that would help, and exercise, which had been thrown by the wayside, had to come back.
I first decided to commit myself to 30 days of exercise. 30 days, 30 minutes. That was it. Cardio (treadmill and/or elliptical) and 30 sit ups and 30 bicep curls with weights. That's all. I purposely started with small goals. Before I had Kevin make up plans for me, or I had this large goal of working every muscle and doing a billion exercises. I'd fail because time wasn't my friend. There were children to feed, clothe, educate, play with, dinner to make, animals to take care of, on and on.
But, I figured if I can do it for 30 days, it will become a habit and stick. And it has! I missed a couple days when I wasn't feeling well, but every single other day I make sure I get something in. Some days are short, some days I have longer periods to exercise or do multiple exercises (ie outside trail walking, treadmill, yoga, etc.). I feel so much better when I am active and it really does a body good. I notice I am getting better at running longer jags, and not breathing as hard, finding some muscle under that "mommy layer".
The other part of it was to clean up our diet. I already knew that going dairy free for a full year while nursing Karter had amazing affects on me. My skin was clearer, my pregnancy weight dropped off and I felt good, not stomach issues, when I wasn't partaking in dairy. Lately though, I had been noticing issues when I had carbs and gluten, especially breads and pastas. I went a week of absolutely no gluten or carbs and a serving or two of dairy. The bloating went down. Stomach issues went away. I increased the fruit and veggies we are all eating in this house, especially fresh ones (frozen is about as good as fresh). I lost 4 pounds in a month. Losing weight wasn't even my goal. Feeling better and toning up to be in better shape, being healthier is my goal. If weight loss is a byproduct, then even better.
Some of the diet changes I/we are making are having less meat, increasing beans and other proteins, less carbs (pastas, breads, cookies) and especially getting rid of processed foods. I started with smoothies. Smoothies for breakfast, lunch, snacks, whenever. And green. Tossing in a handful of spinach to any fruit smoothie gives you extra veggies, calcium, vitamins, etc.and you don't even taste it. Even Kevin and the boys like them. Then I stopped buying cookies, crackers, and other empty calorie snacks and foods. Gasp. We don't just eat lettuce. The boys and I have fun making our own granola bars. We eat nuts and dried fruits (trail mix) instead of tossing them crackers for snacks. They love "ants on a log" (celery filled with peanut butter and topped with raisins). We make healthier, gluten and flour free brownies that are still delicious and good for you. Some nights we have meatless meals. Other nights, I just cut back on how much meat we're eating and expand our veggie dishes.
I had been doing some research online (big surprise right?) and found Paleo Diets. I like the concept a lot, basically eating only what you grow or kill. I joked with Kevin that I might also go vegan, that caused a ruckus in the house. I was only half joking. But, a lot of things have been changing with our diets and even Kevin is more aware because he's been having a lot of migraines in the last couple months and we're noticing how certain foods are affecting him. Not everyone agrees with the meals I make and recipes I try, but the boys are pretty open to a lot, which is nice. They at least enjoyed my lentil patties, even though I won't be making them again.
Eating right and exercising, feeling better, will not only benefit me but my family as well. It's no secret I want more kids, and I'm looking at myself at almost 32 and thinking, I need to be healthy and in shape for family, future pregnancies, for getting older, for just about everything really. I don't want to tell my boys I'm too tired. I don't want to battle weight, and while it's not about that, because I don't want to make it an issue with self image and such, I'm fine with how I look, but to just keep watch of things. And now, in doing this for over a month now, it truly has become part of my lifestyle. I may sit in pajamas until after lunch, after school is done and I can workout, or get up early, but whatever works, it gets done and I want to do it. I'm feeling better, feeding my body better things and keeping it happier which in turn makes me happier.
Homeschooling: thoughts, tweaks and changes
I know homeschooling isn't for everyone. I know that not everyone approves of my homeschooling the boys. It's something we are taking month by month and looking at at the end of the year to assess where we are going with education choices and decisions. I know some people roll their eyes or think it's dumb. I know others think it's fantastic and some have expressed they wish they could do the same. (Which, anyone can home school, it's a different kind of commitment for sure, but that's another post.) I do not know how far we will go with it. I only know what we're doing here and now, month to month.
Recently, I asked Kian for his thoughts on next year's schooling. I said we could discuss public school or home school. He answered that he would like to do it at home again next year. I am all for that, but Kevin and I will discuss and see what we all think is best. It definitely has some advantages, and allows us a lot of flexibility and wiggle room in our routines and our days that we all love. We can do school at 8 am, or 11am or 3pm. Right now, there's not a lot of requirement, as we're not yet under the school district's thumb or scrutiny in what we need to cover or record or count. This is something that will come next year, as New York State's rule is that the homeschooling needs to be recorded when the child is six years old. This will entail a lot more on my end, counting hours and curriculum covered, etc. I will be in touch with other homeschooling parents to figure out that part and if it's going to work for us. And to be honest, the thought of getting a child up and ready for the bus that comes by at 7:20 am and enforcing homework after dinner, isn't my idea of a good day, I've been spoiled.
One major benefit, besides the scheduling, is the freedom in curriculum. I can teach what I want, when I want, how I want. Kian can be part of choosing the unit studies and themes and topics. I often ask him what he wants to talk about the next month. We can go as fast or as slow as we want. This is true for the level and difficulty of curriculum as well. I bought a book of addition and subtraction for Kian and figured he would use it through the entire year. Wrong! He flew through the book, often doing pages and problems on his own. I had been giving him simple 4+6 and 5+3 problems. He began doing double digit adding and subtracting on his own and sometimes getting it, sometimes struggling. I also had a money and time book that we would sometimes do. But, I figured out that the same old adding and subtracting problems each day were boring him and so we changed it. I made up a new schedule: Monday-money, Tuesday-time, Wed and Thurs-adding/subtracting, Friday-fractions. It allows him to have some variety in the week of what he's working on, moving forward in each area, without being bored. He seems to get things easily so far and his memory is great, which makes it a lot easier on me. He tries to do cursive writing and multiplication, but that I am pulling the reins back on, I want a firm foundation in basics first.
I don't know where we are headed in this journey, but for now, for us, it works. I don't think Kian would do well boxed in a particular curriculum and time frame, especially after experiencing the freedom of what we do here. We have our moments for sure, when he doesn't want to practice some printing, or wants to do math on the computer games instead, or reads the adverb books ahead of time before I can get to them and then schools me with his factoids...but it's working.
Recently, I asked Kian for his thoughts on next year's schooling. I said we could discuss public school or home school. He answered that he would like to do it at home again next year. I am all for that, but Kevin and I will discuss and see what we all think is best. It definitely has some advantages, and allows us a lot of flexibility and wiggle room in our routines and our days that we all love. We can do school at 8 am, or 11am or 3pm. Right now, there's not a lot of requirement, as we're not yet under the school district's thumb or scrutiny in what we need to cover or record or count. This is something that will come next year, as New York State's rule is that the homeschooling needs to be recorded when the child is six years old. This will entail a lot more on my end, counting hours and curriculum covered, etc. I will be in touch with other homeschooling parents to figure out that part and if it's going to work for us. And to be honest, the thought of getting a child up and ready for the bus that comes by at 7:20 am and enforcing homework after dinner, isn't my idea of a good day, I've been spoiled.
One major benefit, besides the scheduling, is the freedom in curriculum. I can teach what I want, when I want, how I want. Kian can be part of choosing the unit studies and themes and topics. I often ask him what he wants to talk about the next month. We can go as fast or as slow as we want. This is true for the level and difficulty of curriculum as well. I bought a book of addition and subtraction for Kian and figured he would use it through the entire year. Wrong! He flew through the book, often doing pages and problems on his own. I had been giving him simple 4+6 and 5+3 problems. He began doing double digit adding and subtracting on his own and sometimes getting it, sometimes struggling. I also had a money and time book that we would sometimes do. But, I figured out that the same old adding and subtracting problems each day were boring him and so we changed it. I made up a new schedule: Monday-money, Tuesday-time, Wed and Thurs-adding/subtracting, Friday-fractions. It allows him to have some variety in the week of what he's working on, moving forward in each area, without being bored. He seems to get things easily so far and his memory is great, which makes it a lot easier on me. He tries to do cursive writing and multiplication, but that I am pulling the reins back on, I want a firm foundation in basics first.
I don't know where we are headed in this journey, but for now, for us, it works. I don't think Kian would do well boxed in a particular curriculum and time frame, especially after experiencing the freedom of what we do here. We have our moments for sure, when he doesn't want to practice some printing, or wants to do math on the computer games instead, or reads the adverb books ahead of time before I can get to them and then schools me with his factoids...but it's working.
Finding routine
I was pleasantly surprised with how well the boys and animals adjusted moving into the new house. And fairly quickly, as well. I was expecting a lot more issues with bedtimes, pet problems, etc. The cats all seemed very to take the house just fine, as did Finn. Plenty of house, high places, windows, and yard for the dog. Kian, I knew, would be fine at first, then take time later to process and get his behaviours out. I was worried about Karter and his sleeping routines. Having just gotten him into good routines, I was afraid with moving he would be all out of sorts. Apparently, I needn't have worried so much.
The boys love having their own rooms. Kian lately has asked Karter to "sleep over in my room." Karter tried, for 5 minutes and went back to his own room. He actually loves having his own room, sleeps soundly in his bed 95% of the time. He still occasionally comes in around 5am to snuggle with me, and rarely will ask to sleep in our bed at night. If he does, I can easily move him to his own bed, and he doesn't protest like before. Lately, I will lay in his bed to read him a book and kiss him goodnight, he will roll over on his pillow and tell me "can you leave now, get out please." I call that success and progress. I knew eventually one day he'd sleep all on his own, in his own bed. Despite what people think about co-sleeping, kids do not stay in the parents bed forever, and it was good for him when he needed it and now he doesn't.
In having their own rooms, they have toys up there now. They play together in one room, or separately in their own. It's nice to have another spot for toys instead of just the downstairs. We have a huge closet to store all the games, arts and crafts and other toys, in our "den/whatever you want to call it room". So, they can bring things in and out to the rug there. We also "do school" in this room. We have desks and bookshelves and a loveseat by huge windows.
We did take a break from school lessons during the holidays and moving. The boys still did some worksheets and things on their own. Lessons started back up about two weeks after we moved in. Changes were made there as well, which is the nice thing about homeschooling. I can tweak when Kian is bored, has mastered something or wants to challenge himself. Karter is really into it now, he loves tracing letters and numbers and trying to do things that Kian does.
Other things have fallen into place nicely. Wegmans is only 10 minutes away, same time, few more miles than before, no big deal. Walmart and other such stores are ten minutes in the other direction. The Palmyra Library has lots of nice programs for the boys, and are very open and willing to accommodate Karter and other younger siblings in all activities, even if they say they are for elementary age kids. I'm trying to find out about other groups, sports, etc. in our area. They're enjoying the kids' program at church, lots of fun stuff, contemporary and great people running it. I am also enjoying the church and it fits into Kevin's checklist: not long (about and hour), contemporary without being rock concert, not super huge. It's a win-win. It's nice to feel settled in the community and home.
Eventually we will get all the little things worked out, like the steep driveway that gets icy in the winter, moving the chickens on the bottom floor of the barn-instead of the top floor where they are now, and more. It's little things, and they will keep us busy, but nothing major, which is nice. We've kind of fallen out of contact with family and friends during our moving and unpacking phase, and so we need to get back up to speed and in touch with everyone. It was a bit overwhelming to do that during the holidays and now we're settled and ready to have company and get back in the swing of things.
The boys love having their own rooms. Kian lately has asked Karter to "sleep over in my room." Karter tried, for 5 minutes and went back to his own room. He actually loves having his own room, sleeps soundly in his bed 95% of the time. He still occasionally comes in around 5am to snuggle with me, and rarely will ask to sleep in our bed at night. If he does, I can easily move him to his own bed, and he doesn't protest like before. Lately, I will lay in his bed to read him a book and kiss him goodnight, he will roll over on his pillow and tell me "can you leave now, get out please." I call that success and progress. I knew eventually one day he'd sleep all on his own, in his own bed. Despite what people think about co-sleeping, kids do not stay in the parents bed forever, and it was good for him when he needed it and now he doesn't.
In having their own rooms, they have toys up there now. They play together in one room, or separately in their own. It's nice to have another spot for toys instead of just the downstairs. We have a huge closet to store all the games, arts and crafts and other toys, in our "den/whatever you want to call it room". So, they can bring things in and out to the rug there. We also "do school" in this room. We have desks and bookshelves and a loveseat by huge windows.
We did take a break from school lessons during the holidays and moving. The boys still did some worksheets and things on their own. Lessons started back up about two weeks after we moved in. Changes were made there as well, which is the nice thing about homeschooling. I can tweak when Kian is bored, has mastered something or wants to challenge himself. Karter is really into it now, he loves tracing letters and numbers and trying to do things that Kian does.
Other things have fallen into place nicely. Wegmans is only 10 minutes away, same time, few more miles than before, no big deal. Walmart and other such stores are ten minutes in the other direction. The Palmyra Library has lots of nice programs for the boys, and are very open and willing to accommodate Karter and other younger siblings in all activities, even if they say they are for elementary age kids. I'm trying to find out about other groups, sports, etc. in our area. They're enjoying the kids' program at church, lots of fun stuff, contemporary and great people running it. I am also enjoying the church and it fits into Kevin's checklist: not long (about and hour), contemporary without being rock concert, not super huge. It's a win-win. It's nice to feel settled in the community and home.
Eventually we will get all the little things worked out, like the steep driveway that gets icy in the winter, moving the chickens on the bottom floor of the barn-instead of the top floor where they are now, and more. It's little things, and they will keep us busy, but nothing major, which is nice. We've kind of fallen out of contact with family and friends during our moving and unpacking phase, and so we need to get back up to speed and in touch with everyone. It was a bit overwhelming to do that during the holidays and now we're settled and ready to have company and get back in the swing of things.
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